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Are you comfortable selecting someone physically attractive with no intellect and spending the rest of your life with an empty mind, and a body that is not as appealing today as it was 20 years ago? (or do you think you're so sharp as to "trade up every few years").
Is superficial attractiveness so important?
This is the same argument that ugly people and fat people (or ugly AND fat people) always use. As I have said before, when these types of thread topics arise where the discussion is on the PHYSICAL I always just assume that all other things like personality, intellect, etc. are equal. So, with that being said, Id always pick the physically attractive person who has the most in common with me.
Just wondering what others think. Do you enjoy sex with someone you are not attracted to? I've a close friend who clearly has the hots for me.
We're perfectly suited personality wise, yet i find her physicaly unattractive. I've been in relationships with people like this before, and hated every minute of it- particuarly the sex. Do others here feel the same?
For me, "being in a relationship" denotes love
For me, "being in love" denotes attraction
For me, "being perfectly suited personality wise" denotes friendship
For me, understanding the differences denotes maturity & self restraint
When you define what you're attracted to in physical terms ...what you're attracted to and what you'll accept, are you open to the same criticism from someone analyzing you?
Are you open to the fact that the only thing that endures is your intellect.
Are you comfortable selecting someone physically attractive with no intellect and spending the rest of your life with an empty mind, and a body that is not as appealing today as it was 20 years ago? (or do you think you're so sharp as to "trade up every few years").
Is superficial attractiveness so important?
I can't date handsome for the sake of handsome, and same goes for wit/intellect.
If all cylinders are not firing, this car ain't leaving the garage.
They don't have to be attractive, I have to be attracted to them.
You bet, neither my DH nor I were as attractive as we were 20 years ago. But we were initially attracted to one another, and as we got older we still were.
Sexual attraction is not really about the body, imo. Sexual attraction is an energy that flows and doesn't need to be seeked. It is either there or it isn't. Someone might be gorgeous and you just don't feel "it". And sometimes someone is not too good looking, but their sexuality is almost touchable. You just know this person will rock you. If you don't feel sexual attraction, you should never try to be with someone sexually. It just isn't meant to be.
How can you be in a relationship with someone you find unattractive? You can't. You ultimately can't be happy with someone you're not physically attracted to, no matter much "their personality shines through". It's a relationship for a reason, otherwise it'd just be a friendship.
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