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You have housing shared by 2 males or 2 females at a time.
I find the creation of this thread very strange
That's because you don't know what a Boston Marriage was, from a historical perspective. Here's a link to an article about what a Boston Marriage was: Boston Marriage Definition
Hopefully, reading this article will enlighten you.
That's because you don't know what a Boston Marriage was, from a historical perspective. Here's a link to an article about what a Boston Marriage was: Boston Marriage Definition
Hopefully, reading this article will enlighten you.
That's not an article, it's just a definition.
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Definition: Originally used in the 19th century to describe two women living together, a Boston Marriage still is the term used to describe two women who decide to live together in a marriage-like relationship. The relationship between the women is not necessarily sexual but does involve a committed friendship.
Two people (adjusted for today's society) living together who have a committed friendship. That could describe just about every person in my social circle. Nearly everyone lives with a friend from college, a coworker, or a buddy from church. They share grocery shopping duty, trade off cooking for each other, and host get togethers for mutual friends. I don't understand why this is something novel or unique? It's incredibly common here.
Two people (adjusted for today's society) living together who have a committed friendship. That could describe just about every person in my social circle. Nearly everyone lives with a friend from college, a coworker, or a buddy from church. They share grocery shopping duty, trade off cooking for each other, and host get togethers for mutual friends. I don't understand why this is something novel or unique? It's incredibly common here.
In order to be considered a Boston Marriage, it has to be a long term committed living situation, between two close female friens, like the definition indicated.
A Boston Marriage is NOT a casual living situation, between people who are just sharing living space, for a short span of time. That's what you're describing, which isn't the same thing as a Boston Marriage.
I live in the Inner Richmond, there was a studio across the hall from me for $850/mo, which isn't bad at all.
If you make $12 an hour at 40 hours (which is NOT guaranteed) it $480 BEFORE taxes. Take out 20% and we're talking $380 a week, for four weeks it's $1520 - $850 is $670 for food, transportation, insurance, medical care, entertainment. It's a tight squeeze and one minor problem like having hours cut so they don't have to provide benefits, unexpected illness, pregnancy... That could be disastrous. I see why they'd get a roomate rather than chance it.
I had a Boston Marriage with a friend from high school on and off for 8 years. We lived in three places together and two cities! We even worked at the same place. It was fun and saved me a LOT!
In order to be considered a Boston Marriage, it has to be a long term committed living situation, between two close female friens, like the definition indicated.
A Boston Marriage is NOT a casual living situation, between people who are just sharing living space, for a short span of time. That's what you're describing, which isn't the same thing as a Boston Marriage.
and besides, I think (I read a book by Lillian Faderman which included a chapter about Boston Marriages), these women had no outside sexual flings or romantic relationships, even if they didn't have sex with each other, and that makes it totally different from today's non-sexual living arrangements.
I don't think that sort of exclusive platonic relationships between women will be back, at least not in the current situation where most commited and exclusive relationships are initiated and permeated by sexual feelings and relations. Also, in my opinion many of those cases were strictly platonic (and not fully fledged lesbian relationships) only because most women -even cultivated and financially independent ones- weren't very aware of their own sexuality back then, as they were being educated since they were born in being as a-sexual (or as heterosexual and conventional) as possible.
In order to be considered a Boston Marriage, it has to be a long term committed living situation, between two close female friens, like the definition indicated.
A Boston Marriage is NOT a casual living situation, between people who are just sharing living space, for a short span of time. That's what you're describing, which isn't the same thing as a Boston Marriage.
So if they've lived together for 4 years (like my friends have) does it count? They were roommates senior year of college, and have lived together for an additional 3.5 years since graduation. They might as well be siblings at this point--they celebrate holidays with each other's families, go on vacations together, etc.
They're also two guys though. I would think that if it came back today, the term would no longer be exclusive to females.
So if they've lived together for 4 years (like my friends have) does it count? They were roommates senior year of college, and have lived together for an additional 3.5 years since graduation. They might as well be siblings at this point--they celebrate holidays with each other's families, go on vacations together, etc.
They're also two guys though. I would think that if it came back today, the term would no longer be exclusive to females.
There's never been a historical precident, for a male Boston Marriage. This has always been a female's domain. So no, two males in an intimate friendship who share a household, wouldn't officially count as a Boston Marriage.
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