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I don't think an engagement ring has to be expensive, but I am very happy that I have one. I absolutely love it. Love that my husband picked it out and bought it for me so he could ask me to be his wife. I know it's sappy, but I don't care.
He's since offered to 'upgrade' my diamond after a couple of our friends got massive 3 carat diamonds. Absolutely not! For me the ring I have is completely perfect and no other ring would be as good even if it were quadruple the cost.
I don't think a man who doesn't have a lot of money should have to get a loan to get a ring - just buy something you can afford, that is pretty and is bought with love.
It’s just terrible!
Women expect their men to be these perfect prince charmings who give them the perfect ring and the perfect dress and the perfect wedding, and when they don’t get that they become disappointed and end their union! The expectations are so unrealistic and I was so disgusted at my co-worker’s attitude.
Not only that but women are not willing to offer even half of that but they do demand/expect it which can be quite hypocritical. It seems many women don’t grow out of that dream of being a princess since they were little girls. Seems like sweet sixteen or quinceañera is not enough. If you compare, weddings and sweet sixteens / quinceañeras are not THAT different.
You would be surprised to hear about the women who get disappointed because their ring was not as expensive as their girlfriends or the ones who go to jewelries to find out about its value or those who take their guy to the jewelry and pick their ring and hand the receipt to the guy.
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Originally Posted by miyu
The 20k that I could have spent on a diamond went towards paying for much more than a silly rock
You were going to buy your own ring or is that your husband’s ring you were going to buy? Still, I also rather spend the more than 20K in a down payment, vacations, another car if needed, home improvement, etc. Instead of a piece of metal on a finger that won’t do much.
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I guess some people are just princesses. If they can afford it, then let them have it.
The thing is that it is not about princesses affording it, it’s the guy who has to afford having a princess.
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But still, I hate when people flash a gaudy ring in my face...
Or ask those who don’t have as big of a ring to show theirs and compare. I wonder the shocking look me and my girl would get when people saw that we couldn’t care less for following that tradition and both of us not have any ring to show off.
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Originally Posted by JustJulia
Easy there, drama llama.
You often talk about how you like to spend money on clothes and shoes and having a comfy life. My advice is not to care so much what other people spend their money on.
The thing is that she buys all those things and not make a man buy them and her thread is talking about the women who expect/demand a man to buy them their ring, spend all kinds of money on the wedding, etc. VanillaGorilla’s shopping is done by her, not a man.
The thing is that she buys all those things and not make a man buy them and her thread is talking about the women who expect/demand a man to buy them their ring, spend all kinds of money on the wedding, etc. VanillaGorilla’s shopping is done by her, not a man.
My post/response/answer was/is that some men/women decide/determine what kind of relationship/arrangement/decision works for them.
I hate big flashy weddings and big flashy engagement rings… and I am a woman!
Over the holiday period, a male co-worker got married and he said that his bride has only a wedding band, no engagement ring.
I asked another one of my female co-workers if she would be happy with this and she said “No way in hell!!! I want a big shiny diamond!!!”
I really really hate this attitude. Shouldn’t his love and commitment to her be enough?
Sadly, more the women that the men, wedding have become so self centered. Families have been torn appart because the bride wants something so fancy or she feels she is not the center of the universe without looking around that to some degree a wedding is also two families joining their destinies, take care.
Sadly, more the women that the men, wedding have become so self centered. Families have been torn appart because the bride wants something so fancy or she feels she is not the center of the universe without looking around that to some degree a wedding is also two families joining their destinies, take care.
That's sooooo true. If I met someone worth marrying, I'd be happy about getting married in my backyard in a t-shirt and shorts. I don't need a huge fancy wedding. I despise those.
My post/response/answer was/is that some men/women decide/determine what kind of relationship/arrangement/decision works for them.
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