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In your personal relationships? Not in business, in business it is acceptable, it is understood that if I need you more than you need me then I will be the one to chase you, to always do the follow up, etc, to cater to your needs. There are those in business that go against this rule and they are true mench's, imo. But in our personal lives we are most of us not so gallant when we should be. A lot of us can shift the focus back to ourselves, to our own interests faster than you can say, "No, not you, ME!" Let's face it, you wanna engage someone, most any someone, don't tell them your story, but ask them to spare no details as they fill you in on all the wondrous, enigmatic twists and turns, ironic developments of their sagas.
And truly ironic of course, is the only true way that I've ever found to dependably "get" from others is to "give" without expecting a return.
Let's face it, you wanna engage someone, most any someone, don't tell them your story, but ask them to spare no details as they fill you in on all the wondrous, enigmatic twists and turns, ironic developments of their sagas.
You're not talking about selfishness; you're talking about great conversationalists!
You're not talking about selfishness; you're talking about great conversationalists!
You should start a thread, it might be the most enduring of all time, the ... "Tell us YOUR story" thread.. and please do not be humble, or economical!
I think I should be more selfish and self-absorbed. It seems like that's the only way you can get people to befriend you these days when you make people do the things you want and make yourself seem a lot more important than you really are. Being selfless, humble and caring for everyone else rather than yourself leaves everyone to s--t on you make you look like a bad guy when you no longer can please people.
I had a little trouble understanding the OP, but I'll try and respond to what I think it is the question.
I am very giving and loving with those I care about. I am fiercely loyal to those I love and respect. Different relationships will have different levels of expectation. But I will kick into "me" mode when my needs are not being met or when it becomes a sacrifice rather than a united effort. I believe that's the way of it for most people. We enter into relationships for how they enhance our lives, first and foremost. That is a selfishness that I see nothing wrong with.
We enter into relationships for how they enhance our lives, first and foremost. That is a selfishness that I see nothing wrong with.
Well said. Relationships are not charity.
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