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Yeah when I saw him walk into the bar I didn't look at him or say anything and he came up to me and was like "Hey! whats up? sorry I started drinking and then forgot to call" I just shrugged it off and then he said he is going to another bar and I should come. I didn't go and texted him saying sorry cant go maybe another day this week we could hang out? and he said yeah im down.
I'm just sick of trying to figure out what the hell guys are really thinking all the time. So i told him the truth (alcohol will do that to you) I said I felt that the fact that he didn't call made me think I was only a one night thing for him. Long story short, he made a comment about sleeping around a lot lately and i said "I appreciate the honesty. I'm fine with that I just hate games"
He sent me a text today being like "thanks for being cool about it lol...games are gay" Text seemed very immature and wasn't even sure how to take it so I ignored it.
I really don't understand what guys want, I'm about to give up
Yeah when I saw him walk into the bar I didn't look at him or say anything and he came up to me and was like "Hey! whats up? sorry I started drinking and then forgot to call" I just shrugged it off and then he said he is going to another bar and I should come. I didn't go and texted him saying sorry cant go maybe another day this week we could hang out? and he said yeah im down.
I'm just sick of trying to figure out what the hell guys are really thinking all the time. So i told him the truth (alcohol will do that to you) I said I felt that the fact that he didn't call made me think I was only a one night thing for him. Long story short, he made a comment about sleeping around a lot lately and i said "I appreciate the honesty. I'm fine with that I just hate games"
He sent me a text today being like "thanks for being cool about it lol...games are gay" Text seemed very immature and wasn't even sure how to take it so I ignored it.
I really don't understand what guys want, I'm about to give up
If he is your age that is part of the problem. Older guys most likely wouldn't have done that to a friend's sister. Like I said, none of the guys I hang out with or grew up with would have. That's kinda a unwritten rule and off limits. I think you are right thinking he is blowing you off. He is! Know what he is selling next time and tell him to f_________ fill in the blank.
Yeah when I saw him walk into the bar I didn't look at him or say anything and he came up to me and was like "Hey! whats up? sorry I started drinking and then forgot to call" I just shrugged it off and then he said he is going to another bar and I should come. I didn't go and texted him saying sorry cant go maybe another day this week we could hang out? and he said yeah im down.
I'm just sick of trying to figure out what the hell guys are really thinking all the time. So i told him the truth (alcohol will do that to you) I said I felt that the fact that he didn't call made me think I was only a one night thing for him. Long story short, he made a comment about sleeping around a lot lately and i said "I appreciate the honesty. I'm fine with that I just hate games"
He sent me a text today being like "thanks for being cool about it lol...games are gay" Text seemed very immature and wasn't even sure how to take it so I ignored it.
I really don't understand what guys want, I'm about to give up
You might try dropping the victim attitude for starters.
I know this is going to be a shocker for you, but you weren't played. You and this guy went out drinking and partying and then ended up having sex, so why are you acting so surprised that he's treating you like the booty call you were? Honestly I'm not even sure what your issue is here. You seemed to be plenty aware that this could just be a one night stand from the start.
There is a lesson to be learned here. If you want to form a real relationship with a guy, giving it up on the first night is one of the quickest ways to remove yourself from his dating roster. You don't bang a guy into loving you. That only works on the desperate beta males types who never get laid and end up clinging to the ***** they do get like it's a life raft.
You might try dropping the victim attitude for starters.
I know this is going to be a shocker for you, but you weren't played. You and this guy went out drinking and partying and then ended up having sex, so why are you acting so surprised that he's treating you like the booty call you were? Honestly I'm not even sure what your issue is here. You seemed to be plenty aware that this could just be a one night stand from the start.
There is a lesson to be learned here. If you want to form a real relationship with a guy, giving it up on the first night is one of the quickest ways to remove yourself from his dating roster. You don't bang a guy into loving you. That only works on the desperate beta males types who never get laid and end up clinging to the ***** they do get like it's a life raft.
^^^Yep, I agree with David. I don't know why women do this and set themselves up. You want to blame the man but you were equally to blame in this game. Learn from this experience and next time don't set yourself up for failure. Have self control when drinking and don't have sex with anyone for the first time. And really I can't believe he would "hit it" with a friend's sister. That's an unwritten rule that you just don't do. But that really shows you what type of person he is. But take some responsibility in what happened and move on.
^^^Yep, I agree with David. I don't know why women do this and set themselves up. You want to blame the man but you were equally to blame in this game. Learn from this experience and next time don't set yourself up for failure. Have self control when drinking and don't have sex with anyone for the first time. And really I can't believe he would "hit it" with a friend's sister. That's an unwritten rule that you just don't do. But that really shows you what type of person he is. But take some responsibility in what happened and move on.
I think that is what shocked me the most about the whole situation. I felt more comfortable with him BECAUSE he was my brothers friend and my brother seemed to approve of him with me. If it was a random guy at a party I would have totally expected that from him and even wouldn't have slept with him.
So i feel this guy may have even used the sister card to his advantage which is so disturbing to me. Not to mention, I'm sure I will have to run into him again considering he is my brothers friend, I guess guys don't think about that, nor do they care.
I think that is what shocked me the most about the whole situation. I felt more comfortable with him BECAUSE he was my brothers friend and my brother seemed to approve of him with me. If it was a random guy at a party I would have totally expected that from him and even wouldn't have slept with him.
So i feel this guy may have even used the sister card to his advantage which is so disturbing to me. Not to mention, I'm sure I will have to run into him again considering he is my brothers friend, I guess guys don't think about that, nor do they care.
Most guys do care about that you're his friend's sister and it's an unwritten rule but apparently this guy isn't one to have any decency.
I would chalk it up to experience and move on. I wouldn't talk to him and would erase what happened between you two. Act like nothing happened. But I would definitely stay way away from him because really he is a douche. He realized he was in your comfort zone and took advantage of it but still you have to take some responsibility on what happened.
I know, I am as much to blame as he is. Not to mention my brother was sleeping right outside his bedroom, who knows maybe he did it just because I WAS his friends sister.
My brother told me that night that he has hated every guy I have dated and that I need to pick better guys blah blah.. I guess he may not realize it but his friends are actually worse then the guys I have dated.
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