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Old 02-17-2011, 01:31 PM
 
Location: Las Vegas
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I had been wanting to move out of my apartment with my gf for awhile now. Whwn I tried to bring up to her I broke out in tears and then she broke out crying

We talked for about 3 hrs and we agreed to stay together. But I feel like I only did it because I don't want to hurt her or break her heart, because just the thought of that breaks my heart just as much. Even though I want to be alone for awhile I agreed to stay together so she'll be happy. I love her so much but I want to be alone for awhile. Did I do the right thing by staying with her so she'll be happy?
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Old 02-17-2011, 01:33 PM
 
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Nope. Sounds like you'll still end up leaving eventually. She'll just be hurt later anyway. Better to get it over with.
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Old 02-17-2011, 01:34 PM
 
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I had been wanting to move out of my apartment with my gf for awhile now. Whwn I tried to bring up to her I broke out in tears and then she broke out crying

We talked for about 3 hrs and we agreed to stay together. But I feel like I only did it because I don't want to hurt her or break her heart, because just the thought of that breaks my heart just as much. Even though I want to be alone for awhile I agreed to stay together so she'll be happy. I love her so much but I want to be alone for awhile. Did I do the right thing by staying with her so she'll be happy?
leave
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Old 02-17-2011, 01:35 PM
 
Location: colorado
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I had been wanting to move out of my apartment with my gf for awhile now. Whwn I tried to bring up to her I broke out in tears and then she broke out crying

We talked for about 3 hrs and we agreed to stay together. But I feel like I only did it because I don't want to hurt her or break her heart, because just the thought of that breaks my heart just as much. Even though I want to be alone for awhile I agreed to stay together so she'll be happy. I love her so much but I want to be alone for awhile. Did I do the right thing by staying with her so she'll be happy?


why do you want to be alone? if you love her so much
alone for awhile for how long? why?
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Old 02-17-2011, 01:54 PM
 
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why do you want to be alone? if you love her so much
alone for awhile for how long? why?
may i suggest he wants to see what (women) else is out there? sow some oats, ya know, have some fun. not saying it's right, just guessing.
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Old 02-17-2011, 03:02 PM
 
Location: Up above the world so high!
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I had been wanting to move out of my apartment with my gf for awhile now. Whwn I tried to bring up to her I broke out in tears and then she broke out crying

We talked for about 3 hrs and we agreed to stay together. But I feel like I only did it because I don't want to hurt her or break her heart, because just the thought of that breaks my heart just as much. Even though I want to be alone for awhile I agreed to stay together so she'll be happy. I love her so much but I want to be alone for awhile. Did I do the right thing by staying with her so she'll be happy?
Nope.

To thine ownself be true.

You know what you want, and it's not her.

As much as that will hurt her you owe her the truth and to quit postponing the inevitable.
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Old 02-17-2011, 03:32 PM
 
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No and she did not do it either. If you want to move, yOu need to be honest with each other. Tell her the truth. Both of you deserve that
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Old 02-17-2011, 03:34 PM
 
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actually what you did was guarantee that when you do split up it will be a bigger blow up and more hurtful to both of you.
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Old 02-18-2011, 07:37 PM
 
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Why do you want to be alone for awhile??
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Old 02-18-2011, 08:03 PM
 
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I remember that both you and your gf had trouble picking a new apt. She wanted one and you would be happy living in another. Is this the reason why you want to be alone? Or is it because even though you love her, she's not the one?

Either way, since you want to be alone, you need to let her know that you need to leave.
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