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Need some advise please.. I met this guy [mod][/mod] and was very impressed with the first conversation. He seems to be very genuine and gentle and invited me to lunch with him at his New York apartment. I am bit nervous and afraid to go to his apartment, and suggested to meet in a restaurant instead. But he is gently stubborn and asked me to try his delicious cooking. He sounds very gentle and handsome. Please advise, if there is any potential danger…
Ann Troop
Last edited by JustJulia; 02-23-2011 at 08:21 AM..
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Yes. There is absolutely no reason for him to pressure you to go to his apartment for lunch unless he's got an ulterior motive. Be as "gently stubborn" or more and meet him at a restaurant. You don't know him from a hole in the wall. And even if he does appear as charming and handsome as he seems to be online, don't go to his apartment after that restaurant lunch. Proceed with caution!
Need some advise please.. I met this guy and was very impressed with the first conversation. He seems to be very genuine and gentle and invited me to lunch with him at his New York apartment. I am bit nervous and afraid to go to his apartment, and suggested to meet in a restaurant instead. But he is gently stubborn and asked me to try his delicious cooking. He sounds very gentle and handsome. Please advise, if there is any potential danger…
Ann Troop
Would you advise your daughter to go to his apartment for a first meeting? If not, why would you go?
Last edited by JustJulia; 02-23-2011 at 08:22 AM..
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First off, you never, ever go to someones home the first time you meet them... I'm a fan of waiting a few dates before going but that's just me. Second off, no one can "sound handsome". Have you seen a pic? Ted Bundy was a good looking guy too and charming but he killed umpteen women LOL
Be smart, don't get suckered in by charm. If he's insisting you come to his place then I would see that as a red flag...
My thoughts exactly. And I was even searching Ted Bundy before responding. I'd be extremely cautious of him being "gently stubborn" about you going to his apartment.
A man should respect any womens wishes during the initial dating, as to not put pressure on her to do anything where she is not comfortable.
Need some advise please.. I met this guy and was very impressed with the first conversation. He seems to be very genuine and gentle and invited me to lunch with him at his New York apartment. I am bit nervous and afraid to go to his apartment, and suggested to meet in a restaurant instead. But he is gently stubborn and asked me to try his delicious cooking. He sounds very gentle and handsome. Please advise, if there is any potential danger…
Ann Troop
You might be very young. Don't make the biggest mistake many young women do and ended up raped and/or murdered of not trusting your intuition. Don't go to a stranger's home or car. Gosh! Why isn't a lot of parents teaching stuff like this to their daughters these days?
Last edited by JustJulia; 02-23-2011 at 08:22 AM..
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First off, you never, ever go to someones home the first time you meet them... I'm a fan of waiting a few dates before going but that's just me. Second off, no one can "sound handsome". Have you seen a pic? Ted Bundy was a good looking guy too and charming but he killed umpteen women LOL
Be smart, don't get suckered in by charm. If he's insisting you come to his place then I would see that as a red flag...
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My thoughts exactly. And I was even searching Ted Bundy before responding. I'd be extremely cautious of him being "gently stubborn" about you going to his apartment.
A man should respect any womens wishes during the initial dating, as to not put pressure on her to do anything where she is not comfortable.
Proceed with caution.
Wow! As I was reading the OP's initial post the first thing that popped into my head was "Ted Bundy". Kind of scary that several of us were thinking the same thing.
Need some advise please.. I met this guy and was very impressed with the first conversation. He seems to be very genuine and gentle and invited me to lunch with him at his New York apartment. I am bit nervous and afraid to go to his apartment, and suggested to meet in a restaurant instead. But he is gently stubborn and asked me to try his delicious cooking. He sounds very gentle and handsome. Please advise, if there is any potential danger…
Ann Troop
If we were in the 90s... well it isn't the 90s we know better. Come on there's a clear answer here... public place!
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Kind of scary that several of us were thinking the same thing.
