"What was your ex?" [BLONDE]"Brunette it is!" Dating the opposite type (married, girl)

[Opsimathia]

Has dating the opposite of your ex faired well for you or not? And I don't just mean haircolor but personality too.

[Opsimathia]

Whats your story poll takers if you care to share?
Why do you think it worked out for the better or worse and what did you learn about yourself going through that?

[LuckyGem]

Same + Same = Boring

Every person I dated was different in personality type from mine.

I never had a "type" I would seek out to date all of my dates were totally different.

[intelfan11315]

yeah, i went from a ***** to a good girl

[D217]

These things just kinda happen, so "choosing" someone different wasn't really the intention.

But variety is definitely the spice of life!

[mir86]

I'll let you know if I ever get into another relationship..which will be never..

I guess this was a pointless post, lol.

[2mares]

I believe I would be better suited with someone inbetween. Have you ever been attracted to two people who are opposites and wish you could take the traits you like from each and make mr./ms. right.

[Raging-Hetero]

Originally Posted by LuckyGem

Same + Same = Boring ( in my humble opinion. )

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*Fixed

[SeaOfGrass]

Dating the opposite personality has fared MUCH better for me. It just happened to work out that way, that he was the opposite type.

As far as what I've learned:

1. Have more of a sense of humor about myself.

2. Try to see past a person's actions and realize what may be causing them to act that way.

3. I'm not perfect and neither is he, and we don't have to be.

4. More patience.

[Opsimathia]

Bonus points for anyone that can name the movie where the thread title quote came from.



Currently in the opposite and I have to say it was a pleasant surprise. Things just go more smoothly and seem more real. Most of the previous exs were artists as the primary of who they were.

EX - CURRENT

Blonde - Brunette
Heavy - Thin
Artist - Tech
clean shaven -bearded
no profitable career - does well
small scope of conversational interest - broad
vanilla - sunday with all the fixins (keeping it pg)
pop music - metal
lone wolf- family focused
low energy - very high energy..almost too much (hahha)
fight style: avoidance - hash it out right then and there
talked down my values - discusses them
no kids desired - wants twins
did not believe in marriage(dead institution) - wants to get married
bus hoofer - lux foreign car owner
dem - republican
loves the beatles - hates the beatles
sloppy about caring for things - anal about caring about it perfectly
messy - neat
foodie - food phobe
Fake nice - Nice or honest...polite but never fake
Drinker - barely drinks
no family tree - huge family gathering and events
hates outdoors - loves outdoors
going out guy - hermit
vegetarian - meat freak
non-smoker - smoker (trying to quit)
afraid of challenge - takes it head on
softer more fem personality - masculine on most levels
can't fix crap - can fix cars, do house stuff, computer stuff, cook (total gem)
flake - does what he says and when he says it will be done
controlling - very cool and not controlling at all
fending off other style: pout, storm away and fight with me about it later - has humor about it and just wraps his arm around my waist to hold me while looking down his nose at whoever

Its actually kinda blowing my mind how opposite they are...I could go on and on even more than I already have.

Things I discovered about myself: (some less than flattering...lol)
- dark hair light eyes slays me every time
- I can't date someone who does not keep their body in check from getting sloppy
- Too impatient for flakey casual type personality issues
- changed my mind about having a family and marriage
- i like money and nice things...a lot (yipes)
- sex in the relationship is more important than I thought before. Sexless or low frequency is just depressing to me.
- I need someone that can stand up to me without making it a personal attack when I need to control myself.
- I need someone that can carry all the weight without griping if they need to as I would do the same for them.
- Controlling guys are depressing to me
- I have to like the parents
- I prefer a man that talks to his mom a lot. (its so cute to hear them say i love you when hanging up the phone)
- I like someone who makes plans instead of me having to do everything all the time
- Someone who respects my privacy and personal space and does not snoop is a must.
- someone who notices little things is just so precious to me