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Thank you all for your advice and kind words. As I stated before, I would do anything to keep this from happening, But I am simply dealing with an individual who is not rational, not fair-minded and, above all, not MATURE. She goes out of her way to start fights with me over absolutely nothing. I do not understand her mindset one bit. She is insane and has driven me crazy as well.
My friends have advised me not to leave the home, and I am not inclined to do so. But this woman is making this life impossible. I cannot live in the same house as her. It is simply hell.
I am looking for a place to live, while not in any way giving up a claim, legal or otherwise, to OUR house - ours, not hers. I'd rather move out than be in this hell. It seems as if I have no choice at this point.
I would check with an attorney before doing this. What if she tries to say you abandoned the home and your children? You can't do this halfway and expect to be protected. If you move out, plan on divorcing. If you are not, then stay put until she initiates it.
One way or the other, this misery and frustration has to come to a head. You can't live like this. It's not healthy for you or your children. Good luck to you my friend.
Lucario, I've read your other threads and you have my sympathy and empathy. You've gotten some great advice - get a good lawyer and tell him/her that you want to avoid acrimony as much as possible without selling your soul, but and this is a big butt, where the kids are concerned, be clear and fight for them. Without badmouthing their mother, let them know you want them with you.
You claim your wife is irrational and immature. Is it beneficial for your kids to stay with her or would it be in their best interests for you to be primary custodial parent? It doesn't have to be that the kids are with their mother.
Whatever your decision, good luck with it.
I mean, she projects success and the like. She has done well in business and tries to come off as a community leader. But if you know her like I know her, the insanity comes out. She has tried to bait me into physical fights, has been extremely verbally and emotionally abusive, and has done and said some of the most petty, childish things to me. She has also lashed out at my older son when he tries to intercede (verbally) in our disputes (which I have told him not to do). I do think it would be in their best interest for me to be primary custodial parent, but I also know that she would fight that because she knows that is what I want. Like I said, she is very petty and vindictive.
I would settle for 50/50 joint custody, but I am not in any way willing for her to be the primary custodial parent.
I mean, she projects success and the like. She has done well in business and tries to come off as a community leader. But if you know her like I know her, the insanity comes out. She has tried to bait me into physical fights, has been extremely verbally and emotionally abusive, and has done and said some of the most petty, childish things to me. She has also lashed out at my older son when he tries to intercede (verbally) in our disputes (which I have told him not to do). I do think it would be in their best interest for me to be primary custodial parent, but I also know that she would fight that because she knows that is what I want. Like I said, she is very petty and vindictive.
I would settle for 50/50 joint custody, but I am not in any way willing for her to be the primary custodial parent.
All the more reason to beg, borrow or steal (not literally of course!) the money you need for the best lawyer you can find.
Good luck to the OP. It sounds like you have tried very hard to make it work. Threats and rage are no way to live.
My stbx is acting like he did nothing to warrant the divorce---sigh....The person will never change, unless they are a teen-ager.
The only advivce I could give is make peace with yourself. Dont put yourself through a legal hell either. Or at least, find a good experienced div. lawyer. who is no-nonsense. Divorce is painful enough. Legal battles are worse. Really sorry you are going through this, but in the end hopefully you will feel better. Can't put a price on sanity.
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