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So I found someone (finally) who is in my area, and she seems nice enough. We Skyped and I found out that she has had two abusive relationships involving alcoholics, one of which resulted in a kid.
Her profile on plentyoffish states that she is looking for someone else to fill the hole in her life, and do things with.
However, I started communicating May 9, and over a couple of really great Skype sessions it's gotten to the point she "really wants to meet me". It hasn't even been a full week yet, and I'm wondering...is this red flag territory, or am I keeping up my guard for nothing?
It just seems weird to me.
I would ask: Are you an alcoholic or have similar addictive tendancies? She has 2 exes that were alkys. I would also like to know if one of or both of here parents where alcoholics? She may be attracted to this type of personality and if your not, she may not feel comfortable around you unless shes really broken away from that.
Red flag. Boundary issues. I don't tell anyone about my past...as much as much as she has told you in less than a week. I have known my current BF for almost a year...and rarely mention past relationships. I find that disturbing. She might be just too needy....too much, too fast.
So I found someone (finally) who is in my area, and she seems nice enough. We Skyped and I found out that she has had two abusive relationships involving alcoholics, one of which resulted in a kid.
Her profile on plentyoffish states that she is looking for someone else to fill the hole in her life, and do things with.
However, I started communicating May 9, and over a couple of really great Skype sessions it's gotten to the point she "really wants to meet me". It hasn't even been a full week yet, and I'm wondering...is this red flag territory, or am I keeping up my guard for nothing?
It just seems weird to me.
Whats weird?....weird to me is meeting a gal on skype and then being hesitant to meet in person....
I'll just tell you straight out...Anyone that says they are trying to fill a hole in their life is not good dating material. A relationship should be born of mutual interest and both people bring good things to the table. Someone trying to fill a hole is lacking in my opinion, and possibly "needy" You don't want to hook up w/ a needy person....it is draining emotionally.
I would continue looking....why go too fast..there must be others you are also interested in.
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Originally Posted by Draconiator
So I found someone (finally) who is in my area, and she seems nice enough. We Skyped and I found out that she has had two abusive relationships involving alcoholics, one of which resulted in a kid.
Her profile on plentyoffish states that she is looking for someone else to fill the hole in her life, and do things with.
However, I started communicating May 9, and over a couple of really great Skype sessions it's gotten to the point she "really wants to meet me". It hasn't even been a full week yet, and I'm wondering...is this red flag territory, or am I keeping up my guard for nothing?
It just seems weird to me.
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