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I met a guy 10 months ago. He had no job and was on disability because he has had a corneal transplant, and cannot see well. Plus, he has a criminal record (white collar) that will hold him back from the type of job he wants. However, he was a friend of a friend of mine that I regard highly, so i gave him a shot.
Started off okay. Nice, romantic, etc. then his colors showed. Very demanding. Always wanted things his way. Told me I didnt dress right, wear my hair right, etc. If I said black, he would say white just to have that control. He is a bible thumper, and would always throw Jesus this and Jesus that at me.
Then, he started slowly asking me for money here and there. I picked up his clothes from the TAILOR(i dont even get my clothes tailored and i work) which cost me $60 bucks. I have picked up groceries for him, fixed his computer, bought him a scanner/printer, a shredder, MP3 player, etc over the 10 months. If we go out to dinner, movies, etc I ALWAYS pay.
Plus, because of his eyes, he cannot drive, and I drive him everywhere.
Took him hiking with me this past Sat. Bought him $40 dollars worth of hiking clothes the day before. After the hike, we were supposed to go out to dinner/movie with friends, but the day before he told me he wasnt going. The day of the hike he changed his mind. I told him I couldnt afford to pay for me and him this time. So i went to the dinner/movie without him. I had really wanted to go, plus i had told a friend of mine to go and bring the kids, so..I would feel stupid not being there.
The next day my guy tells me that If I didnt have the money to pay for him, then I shouldnt have gone either. A couple of his friends agreed. I was like..are you KIDDING ME? What do you think about that?
I think he sounds like a mooch. I don't see what you're getting out of the relationship. I can understand partners doing things for each other, and I can see you doing some extra favors/errands because of his disability, but it sounds like he's taken it much too far and is content to take advantage of you and mooch off of you. I can't see why you would stay in this relationship.
I think he sounds like a mooch. I don't see what you're getting out of the relationship. I can understand partners doing things for each other, and I can see you doing some extra favors/errands because of his disability, but it sounds like he's taken it much too far and is content to take advantage of you and mooch off of you. I can't see why you would stay in this relationship.
In your post lies your answer, you didn't have one good thing to say about him.
BTW, since you are not married you are not obligated to take him anywhere. Of course his friends would agree.
What do I think? I think you must be desperate, extremely kind, or crazily in love to keep going out with this guy for almost a year. I wouldn't have put up with that type of behavior from the first date, if I was in your situation.
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