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Did you ever know for sure you would have a "Best Forever Friend"? I alsways thought 1 person would be it, but it crashed and burned back in 2008. She and I have not spoken since then. It tore me apart that year. I still think I am not over the broken friendship.
Long story short:
I used to go to a support group. Met this older woman who was about 50 back then in April 2000. She has a diagnosis of schizophrenia and has never been married or had children. She has lived alone most of her life and has had a few full time jobs. I always thought she was inspiring because despite the mental illness she acc omplished a whole lot. I thought the world of her. Maybe even "idolized". She was my ride to and from the support group and school because we lived in the same county. SHe later on or next year moved to Griffin after selling her house, bought a small condo in a nice neighborhood.
We used to talk on the phone at least once a week. SHe used to give me advice regarding anything and everything. Love life, school you name it. This went on for about seven years. I came to visit her probably about once a month after I started going to school and stopped the support group and we stopped rigding together.
I was in an emotionally abusive relationship and somewhere around February 2008, she offered me her second bedroom and said I could be her roommate. I moved out of my ex boyfriend's place and into her condo. She already had a roommate, a few weeks later, so I ended up staying at her place and sleeping on the couch. I had to pay $350 for the inconvience.
Then one morning in April she woke me up on a rainy day demanding to know what had happened to her pet cat. I denied that anything happened and she accused me of deliberately letting the cat out. She was really mad. I had never seen a reaction like this. Not too long after I decided I was better off moving back home. SHe also accused me of getting her roommate drunk, and this person had a drinking problem already. When I got ready to move my stuff out she whisked me out the door and then I tried to call a few weeks later and no one answered. Finally her roommate got back with me and said she was fed up with me and never speaking to me again. I was dumbfounded.
The irony is I have moved into her neighborhood and we are no longer friends. Occasionally I have run into her in the general public and she is either rude to me or ignores me.
I know the schizophrenia is probably to blame but I can't imagine someone turning on their friend like that. I am still filled with some bitterness and hurt over this. I don't know if I ever really will have a real "bff"
I guess I just needed to vent.
Unless you are a teenager, you should not be pining for a "BFF." Life happens, things change, a friend isn't a spouse. To expect to have a forever friend in your life is silly. You had good times, and now they are over. That's that.
Yeah, you're too old to have a BFF. My daughter and I kid about being BFFs. In reality I have friends. For some reason you can't let this friendship go. You need to stop analyzing what went wrong and realize that it was her illness that made her see things differently and not in reality.
When you see her, look the other way and don't acknowledge her. Find another friend. If you need closure on this friendship, write a letter to her, read the letter and then tear it up. Go on with your life. You've let it consume you for 3 years. Time to let it go.
Honey, you "can't imagine turning on a friend like that" because you aren't mentally ill.
She, however, is.
You can't make sense out of crazy, so stop trying.
I'm sorry you got hurt, but now it's time to move on.
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