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No one knows but her. She could be picking fights because she wants to break up, feel insecure in what you are doing when your away, hormone spike, stressed from other things so more argumentative, nuts....
In my opinion, her blow-up is a build-up from all the past months. I'm not sure what the issue is but I cannot imagine it would be just for the palm reading. To think of it, you DID tell her about it, you didn't hide it for months and months, so to me this sounds like an excuse to have a full blown argument. Quite frankly, sounds like she is either guilty of something herself or she is suspecting something about you but cannot quite express it.
Is this completely out of character for her? Maybe it's just her time of the month. Or she may be feeling like the relationship isn't moving forward unless there is 100% disclosure.
We are in our mid 30's. She's NEVER acted like this before. I said I am sorry you feel this way, and I will work on it, but this was a positive thing I shared with you and you are turning it negative. I know I am a private person, and I am trying to open up more, however, I believe I share as much as I can. This is all cause I did not say I went to get something to eat with a few friends and my palm read? I thought sharing the palm reading would strengthen our relationship and put a smile on her face and a warmth in her heart. I NEVER expected it to be turned back to me and said that I never told her this. She said that she asked me yesterday what I did Friday, and I said, no, you did not. You asked what I did Saturday, and I told you. She then said, what if I did the same to you? I said, I did not ask what you did on Friday. I assumed you were with your friends. She gave me a look and walked into the next room. I was about to jet, cause I thought this was getting out of control over nothing. So I tried to talk about it with her. Then she brought up that I did not share my medical problem with her until later. I did not share my work issues until later. And so on and so on. So, like I thought it was the right thing to do, I said, which is the truth, I do not see myself as evasive in anyway, but I will work on being more open. You know, trying to calm everything down.. However, when we drove away, she went to her friends, and I was going home, at the light, I waved by, and she did not even look.. So, for some reason, she's upset, and I cannot see or understand why...
What did she DO that she's not telling YOU about!!?? Either that....or she's got PMS, or one of her friends is dealing with issues that HER guy has been hiding. There....3 options.
Is this completely out of character for her? Maybe it's just her time of the month. Or she may be feeling like the relationship isn't moving forward unless there is 100% disclosure.
Yep, completely out of character for her. I think she is still pissed at me... I called and left a message.. I do not get it.
What did she DO that she's not telling YOU about!!?? Either that....or she's got PMS, or one of her friends is dealing with issues that HER guy has been hiding. There....3 options.
Not sure. I am nearly always with her... Except Friday's. She's not a philanderer, but just don't know... This is totally not her... She is usually very warm, direct and understanding. I tell her everything. While, I might not tell everything as it happens, I tell when I feel the time is right for me. I never asked her to be any different than she is. I do not understand...
Not sure. I am nearly always with her... Except Friday's. She's not a philanderer, but just don't know... This is totally not her... She is usually very warm, direct and understanding. I tell her everything. While, I might not tell everything as it happens, I tell when I feel the time is right for me. I never asked her to be any different than she is. I do not understand...
Just remember, if someone she knows is a "hider" and can't be trusted, it could be causing her to be worried about you. If you haven't done anything that she's heard about 3rd hand, I'd just give her time to sort things out. Spend too much time trying to get her to come around and she's liable to feel smothered and just try to pull back further.
Obviously she has been feeling for a while like you don't share information the way people in a relationship with one another are supposed to. Sounds like this was just the thing that broke the camels back, so to speak, and she just could not contain her frustration and aggravation any longer.
Since you do love her and obviously want to continue the relationship, start by acknowledging that even though you consider yourself a "private" person, you have to be willing to be more open with a partner for your level of intimacy to grow.
Maybe you aren't the sort of person who is built to be in a relationship. I don't know. If you were sick for a month, you should have told your partner. If it was to the point where you needed to visit a doctor, you should have told your partner. Women like to be checked in. We like to care about our mate. We want you to let us be a part of your life.
If you aren't willing to share yourself with someone, I worry you're going to have a hard time convincing someone to stick around long term. People crave that sense of intimacy with someone. Those little secrets that no one knows but the couple (you know, how he talks in his sleep or she likes wearing her undies around the house) build intimacy. You have a sense of specialness, that you know your partner better than any other person. It's an important building block and right now, you're arranging it so you never have that together.
You can keep wondering if it's PMS, or if she's just grouchy today, but from where I'm sitting, she's been pretty darn clear in spelling out the problem. You are evasive and secretive (private) in your relationship. Usually a comment like this is a shot across the bow. Will you pay heed, or will this turn into a breakup in 2 months time?
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