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If you see something awkward in your videos but are having trouble pin pointing it, do you have a friend you trust enough to send those videos to, to ask for feed back?
That might give you something to work on, for real life I mean, not for making a dating video.
So on average you are asking out 1 girl a month? You need to give some background. You were on an online dating site, and every girl said "no"?
Are you a average guy, in college asking out uber hot corporate women? Do you mostly do online dating, or ask girls out that you meet in person? Do you know them? or is it in bars or out with friends?
If your just venting, then disregard the questions.
I would hate to be a guy and this is one of the main reasons! But I've heard lots of guys say it is a numbers game... and I've seen guys make the rounds at bars asking girls out. /lol
Sunnydee: yes, I do ask them out and get turned down (with a wide variety of excuses, by the way)
catsmom21: My friends don't need any videos, they can hear me and see me with their own eyes. But I can't, so I did a couple of videos to judge for myself. I have already asked a couple of female friends about this but they didn't tell me anything useful, just to "be patient and keep trying".
Mikala43: I don't do online anymore, I did in the past, but nowadays it's so hard to get a single response that I got tired of it. I meant approaches in real life. As of how many... sometimes I asked out 3 girls the same weekend, other periods maybe I didn't ask out anyone for 3 weeks. It really depends on how many women I met who I was interested in.
In the last 2 years I'd say some dozens. I had a pretty active period when I attended salsa lessons since I met a lot of girls there. Lately I do it less often, because of both meeting less women and somewhat losing hope after so many rejections
It sounds like you took the lessons in the hope that it would help you meet women. Is this so?
catsmom21: My friends don't need any videos, they can hear me and see me with their own eyes. But I can't, so I did a couple of videos to judge for myself. I have already asked a couple of female friends about this but they didn't tell me anything useful, just to "be patient and keep trying".
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Okay, but let me elaborate more. First, you said you hardly ever see your friends, and have trouble making arrangements to spend time with them. Sending them a video, you don't have to find a time you both are free to meet.
In addition, when people are talking face to face, it's different from watching a video of someone. When you are interacting your focus is different.
Those were the thoughts behind my suggestion. Good luck to you, don't give up!
Wow, many answers since I went to bed! Thank you all guys (and lads )
Let's see:
crisan: At first I didn't know if I would like dancing, I joined as a way to meet new people and (yes!) especially women. But to my surprise I actually ended liking salsa quite a bit.
catsmom21: It might be an option, but it would be rather ackward randomly coming up with a video of myself for this kind of thing. I understand what you mean, but I'd rather not do that. I mean, the videos I recorded do not show anything special or different than usual. It's just me speaking.
lpfan921: Thanks for coming by! But please don't feel my pain haha, no need for any pain to you.
optiflex: Well I had some older thread speaking about it. I would say I have tried mostly any improvement I can think of. I lost weight, dress better, go out more, have more friends, talk to more women, learned salsa, bought a house, tried some new looks...
Snort: Hey, you over here again! To be honest I can remember your suggestion for an intercambio but I don't recall the point behind it. What would this accomplish? It's hard enough speaking about this problem with close friends, so I take it you don't expect me to tell this to complete strangers?
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