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In no way can dating or living together or getting married again match doing it in your teens or early twenties. The baggage changes everything. I'm not saying it can't be good, great, better than it ever has been or at worst a good learning experience.
I celebrated my first year with my girlfriend yesterday, I still think shes a great lady and always will. I'm not driving down a second chance, everyone that wants one deserves one.
My point with this post is that with baggage and knowledge we didn't have before our first serious relationship comes compromise in our second or third or who's counting relationship.
It will never be new again and the truth is as happy as I am with her I have visions of building a cabin in the woods and vanishing.
I'm not really going anywhere, I'm a lifer, I know that. but I wished I could have gotten it right the first time.
In no way can dating or living together or getting married again match doing it in your teens or early twenties. The baggage changes everything. I'm not saying it can't be good, great, better than it ever has been or at worst a good learning experience.
I celebrated my first year with my girlfriend yesterday, I still think shes a great lady and always will. I'm not driving down a second chance, everyone that wants one deserves one.
My point with this post is that with baggage and knowledge we didn't have before our first serious relationship comes compromise in our second or third or who's counting relationship.
It will never be new again and the truth is as happy as I am with her I have visions of building a cabin in the woods and vanishing.
I'm not really going anywhere, I'm a lifer, I know that. but I wished I could have gotten it right the first time.
It can if you were never married or dating your teens or early twenties.
What would be a reason for someone not to date or get serious in their teens or twenties.
College
Military
If i'm digging I could say sick parents
It can't be picky because picky people date they just don't stay long
I think I know what you're trying to say but because my early experiences weren't all that great, I don't look back on them wistfully.
We can only move forward and bring with us the lessons we've learned. I remarried the year I turned 50 and I have to tell you, it's the most genuine, loving relationship I've ever had. I don't miss anything.
If you are feeling that something is missing, maybe she isn't the right person for you? Why do you describe yourself as "lifer" if your heart is not in it? It sounds like you are just going through the motions which makes me feel sorry for your girlfriend.
I get your drift and I agree. Unfortunately, you can't turn the clock back.
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