Are you okay with no relationship during the holidays? (dating, movies, marriages)

[hatgirl007]

Are you sad because you don't have someone during the holidays?

I have randomly met people who have told me their whole life story and sad times. I think it has a lot to do with feeling lonely during the holidays. Maybe it's because they don't have anyone to exchange Christmas gifts or ring in the New Year or not being able (yet again) to bring anyone home for Thanksgiving. Failed marriages, failed relationships, separations, etc. I've heard it all. I'm so sad for those who are hurting but I wonder if everyone tends to feel worse during the holidays when they are alone rather than any other time of year?

[Katnan]

I think holidays make everything worse. Not quite the same thing, however, I lost my dad this year and I'm really feeling it now more than other times. A good friend of mine's husband died last week, so that loss is really being felt now, although it will probably be worse by next Christmas once reality really sinks in.

My coworker was giving out Christmas dinners and stockings to homeless/shelter people last night and while they were appreciative, for many, it was very upsetting because Christmas brings to mind all the people who aren't in your life, memories of times past. This time of year is not the happiest time for many many people.

[barkomatic]

I think where you're at in life colors how you approach the holidays. I think a newly broken up with person who finally ditched a bad relationship might be thrilled to be alone for the holidays. Someone whose been looking for someone for several years and watches lots of romance movies is probably sad.

However, just because you don't have a partner doesn't mean you have to be "alone". If you've got friends and family to spend the holidays with you are not alone.

I had neither a partner, nor friends for the holidays for a few years (my friends all left the city for that time) and to be perfectly honest--I LOVED it. All the other times of year I feel like I was in a race, then the holidays come and BAM! I get alone time. Precious, wonderful alone time -- without people in my face.

I guess I could have felt sorry for myself while watching Titanic--but I didn't.

[zentropa]

No, I really don't miss having a partner at the holidays. I go home to my house in WV and celebrate with my daughters and my friends--I make whatever plans I feel like and I do as much socializing and dating as I like, keep my own hours and do things my way. It's the most woinderful time of the year!

I get a bit lonely at other times though, when I am away from everyone I love and not much is happening on the calendar.

[southseeker]

Nope, not in the slightest.

It's mainly because I never made a big deal about Christmas to begin with even when I had friends. For me, Valteines day would be that day, as I've yet to have a S/O and it's a terrible reminder of that.

[jim9251]

Sad? I love it! I do what I want, cook what I want, and go where I want. If I want company or to attend a party, I do it. When I'm ready to leave, I leave.

[Mikala43]

I'm gonna have to be.

[Aganusn]

Of course, I think it's a bigger problem to always want to be in a relationship.

[sierraAZ]

Originally Posted by Mikala43

I'm gonna have to be.

What are you talking about...? Is he not there or is it over?

[the minx]

I've never had a problem being alone on the holidays. I can take it or leave it. This year I'm lucky to be in a relatively new, casual relationship. I still have someone to spend time with, but don't have to deal with making the rounds of his families' houses and mine. We'll do our own thing and meet somewhere in the middle.