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My husband has been deployed for the past 10 months and his job overseas is one that keeps him indoors all day long. He works with mainly women and I don't trust them - for reasons I can't post on here. I've had to deal with my husband being buddy-buddy with these women and it's been hard, even though I was never a jealous person before. Anyway, my husband will be coming home soon and what's the first thing he wants to do when he sees me? Give his friend a ride to the airport because "she needs a rental and doesn't know anyone there." He's coming in with dozens of people that don't know anyone and won't have vehicles. I think it's weird that he wants to literally get off the plane and then get into a car with me and her and have me drive her to the airport? What kind of homecoming is that?!? Am I being ridiculous by thinking that is wrong?
Tough one. However when I put myself in your shoes. I would be fuming as well. I would start with calmly trying to explain your feelings to him. If he gets defensive, I'd have to question him about it a little further, it's obvious there are trust issues already, maybe time for some serious questions for yourself.
My husband has been deployed for the past 10 months and his job overseas is one that keeps him indoors all day long. He works with mainly women and I don't trust them - for reasons I can't post on here. I've had to deal with my husband being buddy-buddy with these women and it's been hard, even though I was never a jealous person before. Anyway, my husband will be coming home soon and what's the first thing he wants to do when he sees me? Give his friend a ride to the airport because "she needs a rental and doesn't know anyone there." He's coming in with dozens of people that don't know anyone and won't have vehicles. I think it's weird that he wants to literally get off the plane and then get into a car with me and her and have me drive her to the airport? What kind of homecoming is that?!? Am I being ridiculous by thinking that is wrong?
Maybe there is some overreaction here. At least he invited you to ride with them. Give her a ride to get her car and move on to enjoy your husband's safe homecoming.
Thank you Round4 and Blondiel! There are trust issues involved, but that's because this woman I was volunteered to drive has been...eh, just imagine the worst
Thank you Round4 and Blondiel! There are trust issues involved, but that's because this woman I was volunteered to drive has been...eh, just imagine the worst
Then my anwser would be "she can call herself a cab and you call yourself a lawyer"
Cheaters are cheaters. (you said imagine the worst.)
Thank you Round4 and Blondiel! There are trust issues involved, but that's because this woman I was volunteered to drive has been...eh, just imagine the worst
I don't blame you. I wouldn't want to ride in a car with a serial killer, either.
Your thread is way too cryptic. We don't know if there's been a history between your husband and this woman, or if you are just speculating the worst based on her behavior with other men. We don't know if there has been a history of mistrust between you and your husband either. Too many unknown variables here. If your husband has been true to you all these years, then give him the benefit of the doubt. It's not unusual for military members want to help one another out, especially after a long deployment. On the other hand, if this girl has given you real (not imagined) reasons to think she and your husband have a "thing" for one another, then explain your concerns to your husband and let him know she should find a ride from someone else. Then, start working on building some trust in your marriage.
What kind of homecoming is that?!? Am I being ridiculous by thinking that is wrong?
Trust your instincts. My dad cheated on my mom in a similar fashion. My dad went off on a business trip and then drove back with a woman who pretended to be my mom's friend. Lay down the law with you husband.
this woman I was volunteered to drive has been...eh, just imagine the worst
Pop the trunk..
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Then my anwser would be "she can call herself a cab and you call yourself a lawyer" 
