Who should move in a dating situation? (long distance, marriage, women)
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There has been many views expressed by both men and women when it comes to long-distance dating but in general, should the man move to be with the woman or the other way round? Is it not too risky to displace oneself to another town only to break-up later? Of course, we all try to be positive and hope break-up will not happen, but what is the best way to go about it since one of us has to move soon. Thanks for the advice!
It depends. Which one, if any, own real estate. Sick family member. Job issues. If one's job is mobile and the other one's isn't, then the one who's job is mobile should move. You need to do a pro's and con's list for each of you. Put it down on paper and then you can get to the brass tax and see what is what.
Here's what I think. Can you both afford to travel back and forth? If so, then you should. If either of you can relocate with a good job, then you should. Some relationships cannot stand the scrutiny of close proximity.
If you only love THE IDEA of being with him/her, but not he nitty gritty, then there's your answer.
Rather just put things in balance and see if making such a big decision will be fine for all areas in my life: career/job/profession, personal growth, relationship, family, and so on.
i would think whomever has the better job or cannot telecommute should stay put.
That's valid only in a marital situation, and even then plenty have experienced their lives going down the drain when a shaky marriage ends shortly thereafter. If it's just a "dating" scenario, I'd say one should should move only if he/she really likes the other city and would live there regardless of the status of the relationship and has portable, marketable, and in-demand skills. Otherwise, particularly right now, moving is for the birds...
like others have said...
it would be very situational...
(and this would only be at the point where the relationship has gone beyond "just dating" and has gotten serious...though i wouldnt wait untill marraige as id hate to get married only to find out i cant live with the guy lol)
job and home would be my biggest concerns...
whos job is better? whos more likley to find a good job after a relocate, ect (not everyone has the option to telecommute)
if both jobs are excelent whos more likely to get a good transfere...
depending on this it might even be better to keep things "long distance" untill the job search on either end proves fruitfull...
secondly is real estate...if one owns and the other rents, id be more apt to move into the owned place,
if both rent whos got the better rental deal? limitations on pets? monthly rent? better landlord? conveniences and inclusions? ect...
if both own, which home is better suited to the long term ideals of the couple, mabe one would make a better family home, mabe one would be easier to sell than the other ect...
and if all else failed mabe BOTH should move and meet halfway lol
like others have said...
it would be very situational...
This is the only logical answer.
Every situation is different
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