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Old 08-12-2011, 03:51 PM
 
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Its true, I'm one of those ugly ducklings that never turned into a beautiful swan. I never like the way I looked so Im self-conscious about myself. On top of that, I can't talk that well and not smart as in not having much to say. I rather be alone than go out with some jerk. This loneliness sucks.

Only 1 guy has officially kissed me and bet it was out of sympathy. We are friends, nothing more according to him.
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Old 08-12-2011, 03:59 PM
 
Location: USA
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Its true, I'm one of those ugly ducklings that never turned into a beautiful swan. I never like the way I looked so Im self-conscious about myself. On top of that, I can't talk that well and not smart as in not having much to say. I rather be alone than go out with some jerk. This loneliness sucks.

Only 1 guy has officially kissed me and bet it was out of sympathy. We are friends, nothing more according to him.
Picture needed!
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Old 08-12-2011, 04:00 PM
 
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Picture needed!
No. I don't want anyone I know that may read this thread. You know what people say sometimes, "Small World"
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Old 08-12-2011, 04:02 PM
 
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Ugly girls get asked out. Shoo, I see toothless women finding men all the time. From your post, I can tell you have low self esteem and self loathing. Those are things you need to work on.
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Old 08-12-2011, 04:11 PM
 
Location: The cupboard under the sink
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"Officionally" kissed ?

Was it witnessed by lawyers or something ?

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Only 1 guy has officially kissed me and bet it was out of sympathy. We are friends, nothing more according to him.
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Old 08-12-2011, 04:19 PM
 
Location: The Jar
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I've seen plenty of "ugly" gals get plenty of males to date and/or marry.

What's the common personality trait? Confidence, almost to the point of narcissism.

If you believe you are worth something (even if you have very little to offer) others will, too.

It's sort of like the Hans Christian Andersen tale, "The Emperor's New Clothes".
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Old 08-12-2011, 04:28 PM
 
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No self-esteem, "nobody loves me" attitude, etc. won't make guys want to run and be with you. Actually, that makes guys run AWAY from you.

Try adjusting your attitude for life and at least you will be able to hold a conversation with a guy and that may lead to meeting him again and so on and on.
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Old 08-12-2011, 04:29 PM
 
Location: Reno, NV
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You may be your own worst critic. And there are certainly things you can do to improve/change both appearance and social skills if you're willing to make the effort. You may not like the way you look, but perhaps plenty of people do, so perhaps find someone who can suggest makeover ideas. It can be difficult to develop social skills - I know from personal experience. Finding out what topics are most discussed, reading up a bit and forming an opinion go a long way towards feeling more comfortable talking to others. When you talk, you're noticed. When you smile, you're noticed. When you act confident, you're noticed. When you have your own personal style, you're noticed. And when you're noticed, attraction often follows.
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Old 08-12-2011, 04:33 PM
 
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I know so many over weight, ugly, bad skinned, bad haired, poor dressing girls that have boyfriends that ADORE them. I can think of 3 who are currently engaged.

It's the attitude, not the look.
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Old 08-12-2011, 04:34 PM
 
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Its true, I'm one of those ugly ducklings that never turned into a beautiful swan. I never like the way I looked so Im self-conscious about myself. On top of that, I can't talk that well and not smart as in not having much to say. I rather be alone than go out with some jerk. This loneliness sucks.

Only 1 guy has officially kissed me and bet it was out of sympathy. We are friends, nothing more according to him.
What do you think makes you ugly? What one thing do you see when you look in the mirror that is pretty? So you do not want to post a picture - describe yourself.

How old are you? How do you dress? Do you smile? Before you go to sleep tonight look in the mirror and tell yourself that you are pretty. Build Confidence! Lets see if we can change the look and the low self esteem!
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