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I really hate talking on the phone... Just needing to sit there and do nothing but talk irritates me, and I usually put the other person on speaker so I can do other things while talking. I prefer texting because I can shoot a quick message and then go back to what I was doing. My ex used to get pissed because my most used phrase was 'can I call you right back?'
Texting is impersonal, and really isn't condusive to conversation. To me, it's short messages to share information ("I'm running late & stuck in traffic", or "miss you, can't wait to see you tomorrow!") not way to have a conversation and get to know someone. Anytime I receive a text and I reply, if it looks like it's headed the route of a longer conversation, I immediately call. I can talk SO much faster than on the phone! Much rather talk for 10 minutes than type for half an hour!
But in terms of dating, brief spurts of information and one-liners aren't meaningful to building a relationship, because as others, and the OP said, it can get annoying, and there is so much more that you miss out with in written format rather than verbal. A sultry "Hi honey" on the phone is not even remotely the same as written in a text.
I totally agree. For me as well, texting is like a post-it note meant to convey bits of information. I don't want to do the "how was your day?" or "where do you want to go for dinner?" conversations over text because it will take years.
I really hate talking on the phone... Just needing to sit there and do nothing but talk irritates me, and I usually put the other person on speaker so I can do other things while talking. I prefer texting because I can shoot a quick message and then go back to what I was doing. My ex used to get pissed because my most used phrase was 'can I call you right back?'
See, bluetooth solves that issue. I have my bluetooth on and it doesn't matter what I'm doing. Its so much better than holding a phone to your ear. I don't like that either. But I just believe that hearing the person's voice is the best way. Just limit your calls to 15-20 minutes.
A couple guys I dated in the past relied almost solely on texting for communication, and it drove me crazy. It wasn't until this last Christmas when my cousin (who is Mexican, so English is her second language) told me that she gets really nervous talking on the phone, because she's not 100% confident with her English, yet. She still needs the visual cues to really feel comfortable in a spoken conversation. (Her English is very good, however. Better than a lot of native English speakers I know!) The guys I mentioned were all Spanish speakers, as well, so if I had looked at it from that perspective back then, I'd have cut them some slack.
there is no place for texting in the first year of a relationship! and even after that, just quick things.
why are people so freakin lazy?? and yes, I'm only 25.
I don't think laziness is the main problem. They just lack social skills and a clue as to what brings success with women and relationships. Or perhaps so many women have such low standards that men think they can get away with a murder and still score these days...
there is no place for texting in the first year of a relationship! and even after that, just quick things.
why are people so freakin lazy?? and yes, I'm only 25.
Really, Mir? I'm 10 yrs older than you & I don't immediately call anyone's phone if I want to talk bc we all lead busy lives. I'll text a couple of lines to get a feel for how busy the person is & if I have to say more I'll call. Plus, I don't always want to be on the phone. When I leave office after dealing with the needs of multiple departments & then going home to get ready for the gym, I really don't feel like talking on the phone until its like 9:30pm bc my mind is in a different frame. Different strokes.
I don't think laziness is the main problem. They just lack social skills and a clue as to what brings success with women and relationships. Or perhaps so many women have such low standards that men think they can get away with a murder and still score these days...
Well, most men can get away with crap with some of these women bc they do have low standards in some cases. And texting doesn't mean that one lacks social skills. Again, it could mean that you're busy or the other person is busy or you don't have that much too say that would require one to pickup the phone.
I don't think laziness is the main problem. They just lack social skills and a clue as to what brings success with women and relationships. Or perhaps so many women have such low standards that men think they can get away with a murder and still score these days...
Why generalize only the men? I can say women do the same thing actually.
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