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"I want him to have a good relationship with his mom"
Why is this even a issue when trying to find a mate? What if he didn't have a good mother? I never seen a man saying-"she must be real close to her mom"
Women and their odd dating requirements
For every woman I've met who stated this is something they want in their man, I've found just as many women who stated they DONT want a mama's boy....
"I want him to have a good relationship with his mom"
Why is this even a issue when trying to find a mate? What if he didn't have a good mother? I never seen a man saying-"she must be real close to her mom"
Women and their odd dating requirements
This is not such a bad idea....especially since I've adopted a similar approach with women: Does she have a good relationship with her father...and men in general?
If she doesn't, you'll likely pay the price for every issue she has ever had with men in her life.
At the same time, if she has a good relationship with her father but she is a daddy's girl - watch out there too....you'll never really be her #1 man.
But this is just one factor among many...just because her Dad was an a$$___ does not mean she must be damaged forever (and for that matter, maybe your Mom was selfish narcissist that no one gets along with).
So, I think its a fair question for a woman to ask about a man...provided she digs a little deeper on other aspects of you as well.
"I want him to have a good relationship with his mom"
Why is this even a issue when trying to find a mate? What if he didn't have a good mother? I never seen a man saying-"she must be real close to her mom"
It's not an issue for me. I look at the man for who HE is first and foremost. If he has certain issues because of his background or family, then those issues stand on their own. The relationship with the parents may be the CAUSE, but the cause is sort of meaningless. Some guys have trouble in relationships because of a bad ex-girlfriend. So are we going to not date any guy who has a bad relationship with an ex-girlfriend?
DH has a terrible relationship with his parents, but he's worked through issues that this caused. They were not emotionally supportive. They were actually quite emotionally abusive. Having a relationship with them only hurt him tremendously. He is a much more confident, happy, and stable person without them in his life.
"I want him to have a good relationship with his mom"
Why is this even a issue when trying to find a mate? What if he didn't have a good mother? I never seen a man saying-"she must be real close to her mom"
Women and their odd dating requirements
I haven't read all 10 pages of this thread, but the people who said it's a very valid point are 100% on-target.
even more to the point-- one's relationship with his mother during his growing-up years. if a guy had a mother who mistreated him, or treated him like a spoiled brat, he's gonna carry that with him into his relationships with girls/women later on.
I personally don't have a lot of 'requirements,' but that one's gotta be near the top of the list.
My husband has a great mom. I have the best MIL. They have a great relationship and he happens to be, coincidentally or not, an excellent man.
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