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After hearing those two things, it might sound like I'm kind of a freaky, unsociable person.
Although I'm an introvert in the sense that I generally don't speak until spoken to, I can carry on conversations fine. I hardly have conversations with people though, due to the fact that I have no friends.
I don't like being a loner at all, I've been self conscious about it before thinking -"What if neighbors and other people see me all the time by myself and figure out that I have no friends?" I know that it doesn't really matter if people think that and its an irrational fear.
I'm aware of Meetup.com and I've used this to go to social events to meet people.
If you're wondering what I do for a living , the answer is, not much - I live with a parent in the suburbs and I get some money from doing some contract work every once in a while. I'm keeping some details short for my own privacy.
My time pretty much goes down the drain because of my living situation, and I don't think many employers would take interest in hiring me due to the big gap in employment.
( avoiding my mom is like a full time job - she has a 1 bedroom apartment, we don't get along, I live in the suburbs without a car , I earned a degree in something which isn't as relevant as it once was....)
I've lived on my own for a few years before until I lost a job.
I want a life for once before I get old but can you name any drastic steps I could take right now...
I want a very interesting life too, I've got lots to compensate for!!
After hearing those two things, it might sound like I'm kind of a freaky, unsociable person.
Although I'm an introvert in the sense that I generally don't speak until spoken to, I can carry on conversations fine. I hardly have conversations with people though, due to the fact that I have no friends.
I don't like being a loner at all, I've been self conscious about it before thinking -"What if neighbors and other people see me all the time by myself and figure out that I have no friends?" I know that it doesn't really matter if people think that and its an irrational fear.
I'm aware of Meetup.com and I've used this to go to social events to meet people.
If you're wondering what I do for a living , the answer is, not much - I live with a parent in the suburbs and I get some money from doing some contract work every once in a while. I'm keeping some details short for my own privacy.
My time pretty much goes down the drain because of my living situation, and I don't think many employers would take interest in hiring me due to the big gap in employment.
( avoiding my mom is like a full time job - she has a 1 bedroom apartment, we don't get along, I live in the suburbs without a car , I earned a degree in something which isn't as relevant as it once was....)
I've lived on my own for a few years before until I lost a job.
I want a life for once before I get old but can you name any drastic steps I could take right now...
I want a very interesting life too, I've got lots to compensate for!!
I understand your desire to maintain your privacy. and I respect it. But I think people will give different advice to women than they will to men. May we know which you are so we can help you?
Get out there! Make friends! Join groups! Have a job where you hang with co-workers. Church, clubs, volenteer, join more net social gatherings. Initiate conversation! When people know your know how and what they
perceive you different. Be down to earth, yet fun.
I understand your desire to maintain your privacy. and I respect it. But I think people will give different advice to women than they will to men. May we know which you are so we can help you?
I am a guy.
my entire situation would probably surprise people if I met them first and then shared this crap. Not that I would share the entire thing since its so embarrassing unless there was a good reason for it.
Get out there! Make friends! Join groups! Have a job where you hang with co-workers. Church, clubs, volenteer, join more net social gatherings. Initiate conversation! When people know your know how and what they
perceive you different. Be down to earth, yet fun.
I can't even find enough social gatherings. I've googled things like clubs to join, social gatherings for my area (Twin cities, MN) and it seems like nothing relevant comes up.
I can't even find enough social gatherings. I've googled things like clubs to join, social gatherings for my area (Twin cities, MN) and it seems like nothing relevant comes up.
Google Meetup and MeetIN for your area. And sometimes there are decent postings in the Craigslist groups and activities sections in between all the nutjobs.
The gap in employment may hurt you... who knows, but are you out there beating the street trying?
I know a young lady who in two weeks of looking has three offers in the medical field....
You need some positive things in your life that you can draw confidence from and maybe find people with a common interest in.....
Have you considered fitness/exercise? You will improve your appearance and regularly interact with people at a gym and maybe make a friend or two...
Do you have any hobbies? Paintball? Hiking? Cars? Find a meetup group or go to an outlet for these hobbies and participate. It is easy to make friends who you share a common interest with.
Stop making excuses for yourself and live life...... You can't keep making excuses for why you can't do this or that today and just man the hell up and do it.
After hearing those two things, it might sound like I'm kind of a freaky, unsociable person.
Although I'm an introvert in the sense that I generally don't speak until spoken to, I can carry on conversations fine. I hardly have conversations with people though, due to the fact that I have no friends.
I don't like being a loner at all, I've been self conscious about it before thinking -"What if neighbors and other people see me all the time by myself and figure out that I have no friends?" I know that it doesn't really matter if people think that and its an irrational fear.
I'm aware of Meetup.com and I've used this to go to social events to meet people.
If you're wondering what I do for a living , the answer is, not much - I live with a parent in the suburbs and I get some money from doing some contract work every once in a while. I'm keeping some details short for my own privacy.
My time pretty much goes down the drain because of my living situation, and I don't think many employers would take interest in hiring me due to the big gap in employment.
( avoiding my mom is like a full time job - she has a 1 bedroom apartment, we don't get along, I live in the suburbs without a car , I earned a degree in something which isn't as relevant as it once was....)
I've lived on my own for a few years before until I lost a job.
I want a life for once before I get old but can you name any drastic steps I could take right now...
I want a very interesting life too, I've got lots to compensate for!!
I feel your pain bro. I'm like you in some ways, but I'm far less sympathetic.
I'm lonley and friendless but a great deal of it is because I'm stubborn and I have low tolerance towards humans.
Keep your head up my friend.
Maybe try to be more talkative towards people who you find interesting.
Ok my guess is that OP is a guy, in which case u need to,
1: Get self-sufficient (job+do you own cleaning, cooking all that)
2: Get a place of your own.
3: Get a car.
4: make sure you're cleaned up, fresh clothing, good hygien and all that.
Ok so now you would be "eligible" on a basic level.
Now you need to learn social skills, how etc is something I'll leave to someone more qualified. One thing I do know for sure is that it's called a skill for a reason. most people have gotten good from 20 years of practise, but some of us seem to slip aside from the "training" somehow, and it's a ***** to try and catch up 20 years of learning just like that.
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