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I know the OP's feeling. I hate it when one of the girls I like on my FB change their status to "In A Relationship", "Engaged", or "Married". Meanwhile, I have this one girl now who I keep waiting for her status to change back to "Single", but things never go the way I want them to, so it will probably change the other way and she'll end up marrying him. It sucks because she just told me the other day that if she wasn't with him she would love to be with me.
Been there, done that. Friendship is NOT the same as Relationship. She was NEVER your g/f.
We ended up in the Friend Zone or YOU did?
While I do sympathize with you. I think you will need to move on and forget about it.
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Originally Posted by WhipperSnapper 88
So, not ten minutes ago, I was checking my Facebook page out when, to my horror, I found out a Girl who I REALLY care about and love is getting married! I have known this Girl since I was just a kid. We have had an on and off freindship for years but the last few years it's been a constant. I have always had a thing for her and I even would say that I love her. I never have had the guts to tell her how I feel about her though. When I first started getting these feelings, I couldn't even eat! I had no appetite. She had feelings for me to at one time but somehow we ended up in the freind zone.
Anyway, she has alot of boyfreinds but they usualy always come and go. The guy shes with now isnt that bad of a guy it would seem bt he's a real doof IMO. I never thought it would get this far with HIM. I just always thought "yeah...this one will be like all the rest and eventualy, I'll work up enough courage to ask her out for myself." Apparently, that's just not going to happen. When I was reading about her engagement, my heart started pounding, breathing went rapid, and I started sweating. Now I'm just left with that overwhelming feeling of depression. Don't get me wrong, I want her to be happy, I just wish I had had enough courage to take a shot at giving her that happiness when I had the chance.
Make me feel better about this whole sitch City-Data, what should I do? Have any of you ever been in a similar situation? How did you get over it?
This thread is a good example of why Nice guys finish last.
The OP didn't finish last because he's a nice guy. He finished last because he was in love with a woman for years and never said or did anything about it.
The OP didn't finish last because he's a nice guy. He finished last because he was in love with a woman for years and never said or did anything about it.
Sure, he is a nice guy but she was NEVER his g/f.
He 'felt' love and it was a crush but he was NEVER with her based on his post. He wanted to be with her but he did not do anything about it.
lol let it go...wasn't meant to be...or if it is you'll just have to wait a few more years....will you like her then wearing granny panties? If that's a yes keep hoping for the moment. The movie/book "Love In The Time Of Cholera" has a similar tune.
He should forget about her for now and move on. Keep her in the background as very low priority.
Honestly OP, I think you're actually the right guy for the girl you're in love with. You should tell her. Maybe she loves you too, but she's been waiting for an opportunity to tell you. And now she's with this guy because (I'm assuming your 88 is your birth year?) so she may be 22/23? She's at the age where a lot of people are getting married. As you said, the guy she's with isn't necessarily all that great. Which might mean, they could divorce. If you really love her, you should tell her. I'm mean, you two have grown up together. It sounds like you two should be together. This kind of love and attraction that you two have and like what I'm experiencing with my best friend is rare. A lot of long time married couples I know were/are childhood sweethearts.
Honestly OP, I think you're actually the right guy for the girl you're in love with. You should tell her. Maybe she loves you too, but she's been waiting for an opportunity to tell you. And now she's with this guy because (I'm assuming your 88 is your birth year?) so may be 23/24? She's at the age where a lot of people are getting married. As you said, the guy she's with isn't necessarily all that great. Which might mean, they could divorce. If you really love her, you should tell her. I'm mean, you two have grown up together. It sounds like you two should be together. This kind of love and attraction that you two have and like what I'm experiencing with my best friend is rare.
How do we know this OP is the right guy for this girl since they were NEVER together in a relationship.
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