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Old 10-25-2011, 05:09 PM
 
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Seriously sleeping on the same bed is stupid if you are the one of the receiving end of nightime kicks, and a small piece of real estate on the bed. I have never gotten use to sleeping comfortably with another person on the same bed. I love my wife dearly and we have a wonderful relationship but I need to sleep. When I sleep on the couch or travel for work and sleep on the hotel bed I wake up refreshed. I suggested to my wife two seperate beds in the same room. We can cuddle and do the deed on one bed at any given time but for the purposes of sleeping only we get two beds. Why are women much more resistant to this than men are. Im a good man, I just want a good nights sleep where I dont have to sleep with a freakin thick blanket during the summer, and arms and legs in the spleen..
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Old 10-25-2011, 05:19 PM
 
Location: The Triad (NC)
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Seriously sleeping on the same bed is stupid if you are the one of the receiving end of nightime kicks...
I'm reminded of an old New Yorker cartoon from the 80's:
Two women having coffee or drinks...
one says to the other: "If he's so liberated... why doesn't he sleep on the wet spot?"
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Old 10-25-2011, 05:19 PM
 
Location: Canada
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IMO, some view the marital bed as a sacred place where you connect on all levels, and to have separate beds may seem like a rejection of your spouse and/or marriage.

I value a good night's sleep. Sleep (or lack thereof) truly determines the kind of day you have, how well you function, your mood, etc. I don't think it's unreasonable to want a good night's sleep in your own bed if you're not able to get one next to a restless partner. How did you approach this with her?
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Old 10-25-2011, 05:24 PM
 
Location: John & Ken-ville
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Seriously sleeping on the same bed is stupid if you are the one of the receiving end of nightime kicks, and a small piece of real estate on the bed. I have never gotten use to sleeping comfortably with another person on the same bed. I love my wife dearly and we have a wonderful relationship but I need to sleep. When I sleep on the couch or travel for work and sleep on the hotel bed I wake up refreshed. I suggested to my wife two seperate beds in the same room. We can cuddle and do the deed on one bed at any given time but for the purposes of sleeping only we get two beds. Why are women much more resistant to this than men are. Im a good man, I just want a good nights sleep where I dont have to sleep with a freakin thick blanket during the summer, and arms and legs in the spleen..
If your bed is large enough you won't be kicked.

Invest in:

Spoiler
A california king sized bed:

http://www.alcazarfurniture.com/assets/images/Pulaski_Furniture/Midtown/Midtown-California-King-Size-Panel-Bed.jpg (broken link)

Or lose weight.
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Old 10-25-2011, 05:33 PM
 
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Seriously sleeping on the same bed is stupid if you are the one of the receiving end of nightime kicks, and a small piece of real estate on the bed...
Honey is that you? Just kidding.

That's a tough one. Forget separate beds - heck - a lot of people sleep in separate rooms! We got into this discussion at one of my former work places and I was astounded by the number of couples that sleep in separate beds/rooms. And I am talking about younger couples in their 20's and 30's - not just the Cleavers like one would imagine. Most of them cited snoring, with a few blanket thieves thrown in. My husband snores like a band saw but there is no way I would want separate beds or rooms. I like having him beside me and at least I know he is alive. But that's me.

In your situation, you should be able to score a compromise of a long body pillow between you when it is time to drift off and adopt the Scandanavian practice of each having your own comforter (ever seen the beds at Ikea?). It's worth a try. You only get one spleen.
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Old 10-25-2011, 05:38 PM
 
Location: Dallas, TX and Tyler, TX
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If your bed is large enough you won't be kicked.

Invest in:

Spoiler
A california king sized bed:



Or lose weight.
Exactly... get a larger bed if you are still in a queen.
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Old 10-25-2011, 05:38 PM
 
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If your bed is large enough you won't be kicked.

Invest in:

Spoiler
A california king sized bed:



Or lose weight.
I'm 6'4 260 pounds and my wife is 5"'10 200 pounds.
A California King is the ONLY way to go.
....Even if we were smaller---
Once you sleep on one you'll never sleep anywhere else.
problem solved.
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Old 10-25-2011, 05:42 PM
 
Location: John & Ken-ville
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I can't use those little postage stamp sized slivers of a comforter. I have to be able to cocoon myself in comfort.

In Europe the beds are like that. With slats that you put together and put two long twin sized mattress on top of them.

When hubbs and I bought a bed for our home in Europe we got the largest mattresses we could find at Ikea and got the center piece that goes down the middle so nobody slips into the crack of the bed when we sleep. I was able to extend the bed to what's pretty much a King sized bed. Nobody kicks each other at night. I can ride the edge of the bed all night long if I want, or lay splat flat on my back with my arms out and I rarely bump him.

I'm not sleeping in the crack of the bed! Two twin beds stuck together is NOT comfortable.

Spoiler
Quote:
It just looks lumpy! Who wants to sleep in the crack?
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Old 10-25-2011, 05:43 PM
 
Location: Tennessee
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I'm 6'4 260 pounds and my wife is 5"'10 200 pounds.
A California King is the ONLY way to go.
....Even if we were smaller---
Once you sleep on one you'll never sleep anywhere else.
problem solved.
I agree with the King size bed!! Makes a big diffrence, but unfortunetly does not help much in the "snoring" dept.
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Old 10-25-2011, 05:57 PM
 
Location: Up in the air
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My sister thinks its funny that I have a cal king to myself... And it takes up 3/4 of my bedroom. But I'm 6'1, my ex boyfriend is 6'4 and when we broke up that's the only thing I begged for

My parents have slept in separate bedroom for years and their marriage has never been stronger. My mom can have her frilly duvet cover and fancy dresser and my dad can have his gun safe and camo comforter. It's win win !
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