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and it's apparent that it makes me VERY unique! I'm 18, a college freshman, and I don't want to share that part of myself with someone until marriage. And yet, I seemed to be "looked down" upon for that...it has definitely made a difference in the number of guys who want to ask me out, and I'm okay with that. But, it's just frustrating to know that I'm in the minority.
and it's apparent that it makes me VERY unique! I'm 18, a college freshman, and I don't want to share that part of myself with someone until marriage. And yet, I seemed to be "looked down" upon for that...it has definitely made a difference in the number of guys who want to ask me out, and I'm okay with that. But, it's just frustrating to know that I'm in the minority.
Vent over.
No reason to vent - this is a sound, sensible decision by someone your age
It's certainly your decision and you're not hurting anyone. But most guys will either 1)Do everything to get you to cave and bolt, or 2)Bolt immediately.
It's certainly your decision and you're not hurting anyone. But most guys will either 1)Do everything to get you to cave and bolt, or 2)Bolt immediately.
No guy worth having will do either
There are more guys out that that will respect her than you realize. I hope SHE realizes that!
I do realize it. But it still sucks to be judged for it. I had a date last weekend with a guy who, while the date wasn't perfect, seemed like a possibility. I found out last night though that he lied to me about his intention to wait until marriage to have sex. Ugh. He's only 19, and I found out he's already been with four women. Bleh.
My daughter is doing that. Her boyfriend is as well. She has never had any problem with guys respecting her choice. She wears a promise ring. It is obvious. No one has any surprise expectations.
Everyone that I know that decided to have sex in high school or college regretted their choice later. Anyone who has ever said anyhting has always said "I wish I had waited. It was not worth it." and often added "He turned out to be a jerk"
I'm sure sex is a wonderful thing, it's also something that needs to be handled in a mature and responsible way. If not, sex can bring many problems such as unwanted emotional attachment, STDs, pregnancies and a variety of other problems.
and it's apparent that it makes me VERY unique! I'm 18, a college freshman, and I don't want to share that part of myself with someone until marriage. And yet, I seemed to be "looked down" upon for that...it has definitely made a difference in the number of guys who want to ask me out, and I'm okay with that. But, it's just frustrating to know that I'm in the minority.
My daughter is doing that. Her boyfriend is as well. She has never had any problem with guys respecting her choice. She wears a promise ring. It is obvious. No one has any surprise expectations.
Everyone that I know that decided to have sex in high school or college regretted their choice later. Anyone who has ever said anyhting has always said "I wish I had waited. It was not worth it." and often added "He turned out to be a jerk"
Everyone you know eh?
Don't generalize other people for making choices other than your own. College experiences and those times can be some of the most explorative and fun times in ones life. You just need to be 1) mature enough 2) safe about it 3) not a prude lol
and it's apparent that it makes me VERY unique! I'm 18, a college freshman, and I don't want to share that part of myself with someone until marriage. And yet, I seemed to be "looked down" upon for that...it has definitely made a difference in the number of guys who want to ask me out, and I'm okay with that. But, it's just frustrating to know that I'm in the minority.
Vent over.
You're not as alone as you think Those who look down on you do not understand your choices and do not respect your decision but you will find someone who does. At least you know who will want to date you for you and who only wants to for sex.
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