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Unless there's things you're not telling us, two years living together would suggest to me that they are both fairly settled where they are.
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Originally Posted by westcoastbabe
All of you have valid points......I would hope that Im not conveying my prejudices unconsciously toward the relationship...But I do have a slight issue of him of just providing service to her, while plotting his next living situation.
All of you have valid points......I would hope that Im not conveying my prejudices unconsciously toward the relationship...But I do have a slight issue of him of just providing service to her, while plotting his next living situation.
BBM~
If this is true, does she know this or is he planning to skip out while she's working?
My guess is the OP is a total hypocrit. If the sexes were reversed I doubt she would have any problem with the relationship. This is why a lot of men are angry with feminism and the womens movement. Double Standards and favoritism. Women expect total equal rights in the work place, equal wages etc, but they also receive preferential treatment when it comes to certain types of jobs, like police and firemen, where standards were lowered to allow more women access to these jobs. If they gave preferences to men, like extra scholarships and preferential hiring in fields like nursing, my guess is that women would get steamed.
Then we get to the personal relationship situations, and then women expect that equality is out the door. They want men to ask them out, pay for the date, open doors for them. When it comes to engagement, he must ask her, he gets on his knee, he buys the expensive ring. How many women will get on a knee or make some other production and ask a guy out or to get married. When it comes to the wedding, its all about the Bride. Its a world overrun with Divas. In marriage, she is free to stay home or work, but if he doesn't work, he's a bum. When it comes to divorce, she gets the kids automatically, he gets huge child support payments. Certainly there are exceptions, but this is largely the world we live in and its not a surprise, many man are rejecting the injustice of it by just refusing to play along. These are the guys who will not commit. When you consider the game is against them in many ways, its understandable that many men just don't want to play. There are even web sites encouraging men not to get married because of their belief that the system in rigged against men.
As unfortunate as it is, this is becoming a sad fact.
I realise not every woman thinks this way, but it does seem to be on the rise, particularly among some of the younger ones.
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Originally Posted by Prairieparson
My guess is the OP is a total hypocrit. If the sexes were reversed I doubt she would have any problem with the relationship. This is why a lot of men are angry with feminism and the womens movement. Double Standards and favoritism. Women expect total equal rights in the work place, equal wages etc, but they also receive preferential treatment when it comes to certain types of jobs, like police and firemen, where standards were lowered to allow more women access to these jobs. If they gave preferences to men, like extra scholarships and preferential hiring in fields like nursing, my guess is that women would get steamed.
Then we get to the personal relationship situations, and then women expect that equality is out the door. They want men to ask them out, pay for the date, open doors for them. When it comes to engagement, he must ask her, he gets on his knee, he buys the expensive ring. How many women will get on a knee or make some other production and ask a guy out or to get married. When it comes to the wedding, its all about the Bride. Its a world overrun with Divas. In marriage, she is free to stay home or work, but if he doesn't work, he's a bum. When it comes to divorce, she gets the kids automatically, he gets huge child support payments. Certainly there are exceptions, but this is largely the world we live in and its not a surprise, many man are rejecting the injustice of it by just refusing to play along. These are the guys who will not commit. When you consider the game is against them in many ways, its understandable that many men just don't want to play. There are even web sites encouraging men not to get married because of their belief that the system in rigged against men.
All of you have valid points......I would hope that Im not conveying my prejudices unconsciously toward the relationship...But I do have a slight issue of him of just providing service to her, while plotting his next living situation.
Is that what's happening? If so then he's using her.
As for their living situation, is he doing all (or most) of the housework? After all, like some said, if the situations were reversed, then it's not strange but he better be doing the housework.
Confucious say "only thing worse than lazy man is nosy friend!"
Touche'. Like said, if the roles were reversed no one would say anything. In todays tough economy its no surprise when a woman makes more than a man.
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