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Then they should make sure their spouse is clear on that well BEFORE marriage.
But people change, circumstances change, nothing is entirely predictable. I agree monogamy should be discussed prior to marriage and expectations clearly set, but to view an indiscretion as earth shattering and a total destroyer of a relationship is being very bullish.
America has this obsession with monogamy that isn't as prevalent in other countries. Whilst not entirely condoned there is at least some leeway and understanding as to why someone would cheat on their husband or wife and how a marriage or relationship can be salvaged if it does occur.
To have this black and white view isn't helpful in repairing a marriage or working on any issues.
But people change, circumstances change, nothing is entirely predictable. I agree monogamy should be discussed prior to marriage and expectations clearly set, but to view an indiscretion as earth shattering and a total destroyer of a relationship is being very bullish.
America has this obsession with monogamy that isn't as prevalent in other countries. Whilst not entirely condoned there is at least some leeway and understanding as to why someone would cheat on their husband or wife and how a marriage or relationship can be salvaged if it does occur.
To have this black and white view isn't helpful in repairing a marriage or working on any issues.
I can't disagree with anything you wrote in general terms.
For myself personally? It IS black and white, and it is with my SO. But we are both very much on guard against situations that can lead to infidelity.
I can't disagree with anything you wrote in general terms.
For myself personally? It IS black and white, and it is with my SO. But we are both very much on guard against situations that can lead to infidelity.
I used to think that I was very determined I would not accept a cheating husband and I have never, to my knowledge anyway, had one, so my thoughts are not based on any reality. But I'm not so sure that I would just dump him because he slept with another woman. I don't really know why it doesn't bother me as much now, maybe if he actually did the deed I would change my mind and chop his b*lls off...who knows.
I used to think that I was very determined I would not accept a cheating husband and I have never, to my knowledge anyway, had one, so my thoughts are not based on any reality. But I'm not so sure that I would just dump him because he slept with another woman. I don't really know why it doesn't bother me as much now, maybe if he actually did the deed I would change my mind and chop his b*lls off...who knows.
And maybe I would forgive.
Here's to us never finding out what we would do in that situation!
I still have not read a post that shows why woman cheat. At what ages do most woman want to cheat. I am married but now in my early 50 's I find I want to try sext out side our marriage. Its not that I don't love him the thought of of living with "WHAT IF...." Would love to hear from some one around my age.
Let's go ahead a get this out of the way... we are not animals tied to our baser natures. If we are the most dominate species on this planet, we must understand, learn, and accept that that comes with more of a responsibility. We are seen as the more smarter of the species on the planet, and as such we hold ourselves to a higher standard than we do animals. So please don't use the fact that just because animals breed with many different mates, that it some how gives people passes to cheat on the s/o's or spouses!
Besides, humans are one of the few creatures on the planet that mates outside of breeding purposes, where most other animals mate just to procreate.
Let's go ahead a get this out of the way... we are not animals tied to our baser natures. If we are the most dominate species on this planet, we must understand, learn, and accept that that comes with more of a responsibility. We are seen as the more smarter of the species on the planet, and as such we hold ourselves to a higher standard than we do animals. So please don't use the fact that just because animals breed with many different mates, that it some how gives people passes to cheat on the s/o's or spouses!
Besides, humans are one of the few creatures on the planet that mates outside of breeding purposes, where most other animals mate just to procreate.
It's usually just an excuse used by men to justify cheating or not wanting to be monogamous. Plenty of my male friends have used 'biology' as an excuse when things start getting serious with a woman. Hey, they can't be tied down, right? BIOLOGY.
I've been cheated on in 100% of my relationships. Granted, I've only been in two... but that's not a great track record. Both of them said it was because I wasn't attractive enough, but I guess I was perfectly good for regular sex, cooking and cleaning. Just not being arm candy.
It's usually just an excuse used by men to justify cheating or not wanting to be monogamous. Plenty of my male friends have used 'biology' as an excuse when things start getting serious with a woman. Hey, they can't be tied down, right? BIOLOGY.
I've been cheated on in 100% of my relationships. Granted, I've only been in two... but that's not a great track record. Both of them said it was because I wasn't attractive enough, but I guess I was perfectly good for regular sex, cooking and cleaning. Just not being arm candy.
Now that's disgusting to me. I can NOT stand a cheater, much less one who tries to blame on "animal instincts." Please! Give me a break!
That's only an excuse and these people know it. If they applied that same will power that they have to "stay fit" or "find a fit/slim mate" then they would realize cheating falls into that same category. The will power category.
People with greater will power are far less likely to cheat, than people with no will power.
Don't fit people say this about over weight people? It's practically the same thing...
It's usually just an excuse used by men to justify cheating or not wanting to be monogamous. Plenty of my male friends have used 'biology' as an excuse when things start getting serious with a woman. Hey, they can't be tied down, right? BIOLOGY.
I've been cheated on in 100% of my relationships. Granted, I've only been in two... but that's not a great track record. Both of them said it was because I wasn't attractive enough, but I guess I was perfectly good for regular sex, cooking and cleaning. Just not being arm candy.
Wow, they actually told you this to your face, or are you just guessing?
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Seriously? 
