What's the most important quality required for a sucessful relationship? (long-term, marriages)

[Djuna]

Originally Posted by Yzette

Mutual understanding. If you can't appreciate where the other person is coming from (even if you don't agree), or be compassionate when the other person makes mistakes, then you have no business being in a relationship with that person.

This.

I think a depth of understanding comes with age. I know when i was young I really didn't have a clue, it was, to some extent, all about me. My wants, my needs, my emotions.

The older I get the more I have come to realise that to love someone you must understand them, their wants, their needs, how they think and feel.

If both parties have that frame of mind, the relationship can be very strong indeed.

[Katnan]

Respect, #1 for me, without a doubt. Trust and compromise and integrity all follow shortly after.

[KickAssArmyChick]

Respect, trust, and commitment.

They all walk hand in hand.

[artemis agrotera]

Respect. Trust. Communication.

[wordlife]

a nurturing nature and patience...respect and communication comes out of that.

a sense of humor.

and most importantly, being DTF.

[bobman]

Hard to pick one individual quality.

For me, I think it's the ability to have any onne of your qualities available at the right time.

Sometimes I need to be a lover, or others a friend.
Sometimes sympathetic, sometimes not so.

You get the idea, right ?

So, the most important thing I can do for her is to be what she needs me to be at that moment

[penguin_kernel]

honesty!!!!!

[endersshadow]

Being unselfish for me too.

There's nothing worse than giving your all in a relationship only to have her take everything and give whatever she's willing to spare. I was young and foolish. My ex was selfish, but I thought it was because I wasn't giving enough. So I gave more and more and more... After years of confusion and contempt, I realized it wasn't me - it was her.

To me, all things that fall under being unselfish:
-Treats you well
-Doesn't give you everything you want, but certainly gives you more than enough
-Doesn't cheat (cheaters are selfish)
-Considerate
-Loving
-Appreciates you

[Ulysses61]

Being best friends and being able to talk together for hours. Prefering discussion with one another to turning on the TV.

[Phoenix2017]

Compassion...trust...gentleness...affection...

These are among the most important factors, IMO