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I learned that a co-worker led me on for months while he was seeing another co-worker. I had no clue they dated. The other woman is no longer with him and we became friends.
We compared notes and we filled in a lot of blanks for one another regarding our experiences with this guy. He's super charming and knows how to keep you interested just enough to keep you stuck on him. He really played me for a fool, insisting on seeing certain movies with me, but never calling and telling me to call him, only to blow me off and not return my call. He wined and dined me after work and continued to ask me if I wanted to go out with him on weekends, but never followed through.
I later found out that he saw those movies with her. Turns out he only used her and was camped out at her place every weekend he wasn't with his kids and being real intense with her. Insisting that he loved her and constantly emailing, texting, etc. After several months he decided to move on from her, but wouldn't tell her. She said they were so intense and he was the perfect gentleman the whole time, but then he started avoiding her at work with no explanation and she had to track him down to get one. I told him that I feel like he doesn't respect me and he just shrugged his shoulders and walked off. We haven't been speaking since.
I've learned that everything about this guy is such a facade. I'm pissed that he got away with his game and the fact that I still have to see him every day at work doesn't help. I'd love to out him to our other co-workers but I don't want to be childish. Should I get a new job?
I've learned that everything about this guy is such a facade. I'm pissed that he got away with his game and the fact that I still have to see him every day at work doesn't help. I'd love to out him to our other co-workers but I don't want to be childish. Should I get a new job?
There is a reason not to combine pleasure and business. You could report him to HR on sexual harrasment.
She would have to show that his activities were unwelcome or that he was pressuring her into the relationship with the potential of negative repercussions if she didn't cooperate. But it appears she was a willing participant and was under no pressure to do so.
[with that stated, that's a double-edged sword because he could try to claim she harrassed him)
There is a reason not to combine pleasure and business. You could report him to HR on sexual harrasment.
That would be filing a false complaint. You don't report something like that to get even. If HR finds out the complaint is bogus, you could end up out of a job.
This is an example of reason 14 of why you do not have a personal relationship with a person at work, yes, some of them work but that is rare.
Don't quit because of this joker, as of now you don't have a harassment case, but if he continues to go bug you after you told him to stop, you will.
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