so if you get asked out via text..is it proper to reject the same way?? (how to, man)
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I met this guy and I was VERY clear that I'm not into texting unless I HAVE to do it. He understood. He texts me friday to tell me he had a good time with me and to ask when a good time to call me would be. I informed him that my weekend was nuts so to call me Sunday afternoon (yesterday). well, instead, he texts me that morning asking if I still wanted to hang out . I wrote back since I couldn't call (was at work), letting him know that I wasn't aware of any plans, that I thought he was just calling me. He tells me "oh ya... my bad" and that he'll call me later. He texts me instead of calling me, at around 8:00 p.m. while I'm with a friend. After a couple texts back and forth I get "so do you want to do something this week? I leave town Friday" . If he was afraid to call cause I was with a friend, he could have just said "well you have fun with your friend..I'll call tomorrow". This man is 29..I don't get how he could be so...dumb?
I still haven't responded, lol. I already decided I'm not interested enough to keep things going and he proves my point by doing exactly what I told him I don't like. I have no idea what to do cause I'd feel like a jerk telling him to call me just so I can reject him. I already know I'm not interested in "hanging out" again.
I met this guy and I was VERY clear that I'm not into texting unless I HAVE to do it. He understood. He texts me friday to tell me he had a good time with me and to ask when a good time to call me would be. I informed him that my weekend was nuts so to call me Sunday afternoon (yesterday). well, instead, he texts me that morning asking if I still wanted to hang out . I wrote back since I couldn't call (was at work), letting him know that I wasn't aware of any plans, that I thought he was just calling me. He tells me "oh ya... my bad" and that he'll call me later. He texts me instead of calling me, at around 8:00 p.m. while I'm with a friend. After a couple texts back and forth I get "so do you want to do something this week? I leave town Friday" . If he was afraid to call cause I was with a friend, he could have just said "well you have fun with your friend..I'll call tomorrow". This man is 29..I don't get how he could be so...dumb?
I still haven't responded, lol. I already decided I'm not interested enough to keep things going and he proves my point by doing exactly what I told him I don't like. I have no idea what to do cause I'd feel like a jerk telling him to call me just so I can reject him. I already know I'm not interested in "hanging out" again.
Just tell him by that text that you two shouldn't hangout. If he asks why, tell him that you're just interested in keeping things as friends.
I'm the complete opposite, I don't like using my phone as an actual phone. I prefer texting because it allows me to say what I need without other people having to listen. If someone constantly called (even if it was someone I liked), I would just not respond and eventually move their number to the "straight to voicemail" list - which goes to a voicemail box that doesn't save.
Wait for him to call, then tell him "lolno". You might also be able to do something about blocking texts from his number. It'll tell him that you're not accepting texts which should hopefully get the message across.
I think maybe you are being too harsh on the guy. When you are into txting or social media it's hard to change your habits. How about you try this....tell him "you know if YOU called and asked me out i just might say yes". If he can't take the hint from that then chalk him up to 'dense'. But yes it's fine to reject someone over text.
Don't reply him via text. Wait for him to call you.
I agree. The same sort of scenario occurs in the world of employment . You put an ad in the paper for a job opening with instructions on how to apply. You specifically say, "no walk-ins and no telephone calls, please" (or whatever applies). As soon as someone decides the instructions don't apply to them and directly goes against them, I don't even consider them. If you can't listen and don't understand simple instructions, how are you going to function in the workplace where you have to follow procedures?
If you clearly told the man that you're just not into texting, and especially if you told him a second time, then imagine how much he'd pay attention to what you're saying if you get into a relationship ... it'd probably be like talking to a brick wall.
PS: To the respondents who commented while I was writing, he's not a teenager, he's 29 years old. I don't care if his thumbs have outgrown his fingers through incessant texting, not everybody is into it and other's wishes should be honored.
If you clearly told the man that you're just not into texting, and especially if you told him a second time, then imagine how much he'd pay attention to what you're saying if you get into a relationship ... it'd probably be like talking to a brick wall.
I think maybe you are being too harsh on the guy. When you are into txting or social media it's hard to change your habits. How about you try this....tell him "you know if YOU called and asked me out i just might say yes". If he can't take the hint from that then chalk him up to 'dense'. But yes it's fine to reject someone over text.
actually, I wouldn't say yes either way. I'm not interested in taking it further.
regardless, he texted me again this morning apologizing for not calling yesterday (I have yet to text him back from yesterday) and asked when a good time to call is. I guess I can have him call me and then I'll have to tell him I"m not interested that way.
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. I wrote back since I couldn't call (was at work), letting him know that I wasn't aware of any plans, that I thought he was just calling me. He tells me "oh ya... my bad" and that he'll call me later. He texts me instead of calling me, at around 8:00 p.m. while I'm with a friend. After a couple texts back and forth I get "so do you want to do something this week? I leave town Friday" 
. If he was afraid to call cause I was with a friend, he could have just said "well you have fun with your friend..I'll call tomorrow". This man is 29..I don't get how he could be so...dumb?
