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Hello, I'm looking for what type of local business I need to consult for the following.
Spouse cheated on me (admitted to it) but I want to find the cheater's address so that his girlfriend can be notified of the affair. Yes I'm a little angry. I have the hotel receipt in wife's name.
I'm looking for someone to:
a) find this guys address (I know his name, where he works)
b) contact the girlfriend. Alternatively I could do it myself but I think it would be better from a third party.
I've thought about a PI, but I'm not sure if they do these types of above and beyond things. And (as long as it doesn't violate board rules) please provide me with your local recommendations.
My life is about to get pretty crappy for the next year or two.
PIs will do a lot depending on how much dough you're willing to shell out. But to be honest, I don't think the girlfriend will take it well whether it's a letter written by you, a PI, or left anonymous. So does it really matter who throws the letter in the mailbox? Just hire a PI to get the address for you and send the letter unsigned if you don't want it directly linked to you.
I've thought about a PI, but I'm not sure if they do these types of above and beyond things.
This is exactly the type of work a PI does. I would hire the PI to get as much dirt on your soon-to-be-ex as possible. You'll need it in court. A hotel room receipt isn't enough evidence to keep you from paying alimony.
Not exactly what you asked for or to open a discussion, but why do you care about his girlfriend knowing?
Focus on yourself. She may already know and not care. She may attack you and refuse to believe a word you say, receipt or not. She may thank you, then later? Blame you (the messenger) and go all stalker on you.
a) find this guys address (I know his name, where he works)
b) contact the girlfriend. Alternatively I could do it myself but I think it would be better from a third party.
I don't think you should contact the girlfriend yourself if that could be viewed as harassment. I think you should contact an attorney first before you do anything else. Make sure anything you do is legal. Only if the attorney says its OK should you contact the PI.
I don't think you should contact the girlfriend yourself if that could be viewed as harassment. I think you should contact an attorney first before you do anything else. Make sure anything you do is legal. Only if the attorney says its OK should you contact the PI.
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Originally Posted by evaofnc
This really is the best advice.
Yep.
It's a lot more expensive to hire an attorney to help clean up a mess created in anger, from what I hear.
Not exactly what you asked for or to open a discussion, but why do you care about his girlfriend knowing?
Focus on yourself. She may already know and not care. She may attack you and refuse to believe a word you say, receipt or not. She may thank you, then later? Blame you (the messenger) and go all stalker on you.
Just a thought.
Good luck with whatever you decide.
I welcome the discussion, honestly.
As for why, well my reason is that here I am, my life may not be ruined but it is not changing for the better. He gets to go home every night like nothing ever happened. He knew she was married, so that's obviously a risk he was willing to take.
I know his girlfriend doesn't know. My wife specifically requested that I don't attempt to contact him because it would "ruin his life". So nice of her to care about ruining someone's life.
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