Anyone else feel like they were an extrovert as a child and introvert as an adult? (how to, married)
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Sorry, there is not "Psychology" forum here, so I'll just stick in the forum I'm usually in. That and it sort of deals with relationships and society.
As a child, I was really outgoing, always chatting with everyone around. My mouth would always get me into trouble. I could not stop talking. I literally could go on a trip to my grandparents and talk for the entire six hours it took to get there.
As soon as I hit the age of thirteen, I changed entirely. I talked a lot less. I don't ever really have the urge to talk to anyone. I have friends and function just fine in social situations, although I'm usually fairly quiet, unless it's a conversation in which I can share a lot of input. Basically, I became fairly introverted. It wasn't something I decided to become, it just happened. I'm thirty now and still the same. The only thing that happened out of the ordinary around that time was my parents getting divorced and having to move in with my grandparents, far from where I originally lived. But, I hardly think that would be the reason for a personality change.
I'm just curious, but has anyone else changed that drastically from childhood to adulthood? Or have you gone the opposite direction?
I think the divorce had a lot to do with it actually. Changes in family dynamics can have a huge impact on you. Did you feel close to your grandparents?
I think the divorce had a lot to do with it actually. Changes in family dynamics can have a huge impact on you. Did you feel close to your grandparents?
Yeah, I love my grandparents. The divorce really didn't bother me all that much.
Yeah in fact I feel the same way! I don't know what triggered it though... When I was really young I used to be VERY quiet around strangers BUT I talked and talked around family and friends. I was very expressive with my emotions and opinions. I was "hyper" verbally and physically! I loved getting attention for saying something funny or intelligent. Then when I was 11 or 12 I wanted to hide from the whole world, especially my parents. I started to feel depressed and felt like everything I did was wrong or stupid. I have no idea what specifically made me change. I still had friends and made friends but I would be reluctant to reach out to them. As an adult I am still the same way, but I have gotten better in some ways since I married. I'm trying to find a balance, but it's difficult.
I was just the oppersite myself I was very shut in as a child as I got older & I traveled I opened up more. Life is too short to go though it as a shut in.
I was just the oppersite myself I was very shut in as a child as I got older & I traveled I opened up more. Life is too short to go though it as a shut in.
I traveled a lot more...especially to Europe and South America. It opened up my mind, but didn't reverse the propensity toward introversion.
When I was a kid I believe that having a social life was far more important to me than it is now. However, I don't believe I have ever fallen anywhere in the extroverted range. Interaction with people does not energize me then or now....I need social interaction far less than the average extrovert. Social interaction is energizing for extroverts. This factor is one of the main differences between introverts and extroverts. Shyness doesn't play into it. Extroverts can be shy or even have social anxiety.
I was shy and introverted as a child, yet desired a social life and was fairly talkative. I am not shy at all as an adult, still introverted, minimal desire for a social life and don't like chit-chat. The introversion factor has remained static my whole life. After social interaction, I need time to myself to recoup whereas an extrovert does not.
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