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Getting dates online or offline is not really all that different at the end of the day, except that online is a more time-efficient way to have access to a larger group of people. How you meet somebody is ultimately pretty immaterial in most cases; the main issue is whether or not you find that you have enough of a connection after you meet to pursue something. Also, not all sites are pay.
The problem with the dating sites, especially the "hook-up" sites is that the women get hounded by desperate guys, and many women get fed up and abandon the site all together. The ones that stay, realize that they can have their pick of the litter and they don't have to settle - so one mistake, and she can dismiss you.
If you're a guy and you want to meet a woman for "fun" or a relationship then your only option is real life.
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I'm predicting you'll be one of those parents who doesn't let your kids play outside because you think a kidnapper is behind the wheel of every car that drives by.
First off, not a single man I met thought it was a bad idea or that I was irrational. Most agreed it was a good idea. And yes, I did give them my office number also. It bordered on safety - take precautions now, avoid a problem later. BTW, I was 48 when I was dating men I'd met online.
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In order for me to become a parent now I'd have to totally lose my mind. I have children older than you, grandchildren and 2 great grandkids.
My kids were the first ones in the neighborhood to take the bus...alone, to walk out of the neighborhood, to fly alone to grandma's, and to take a long distance bus with 3 stops to their other grandparents' home. No, I was not overprotective, nor did I think there was a kidnapper waiting around the corner. What I did was teach my kids that it is possible and to be prepared. That meant knowing and practicing avoidance of situations: such as not going up to someone's car--Let them ask an adult for directions. If you want a new puppy, let me know; don't go petting strangers' dogs - we have enough at home.
If they were alone walking home after dark, call me before leaving and always take the route we agreed on - which meant not cutting through the woods or other shortcut. Be where you say you're going to be and call if it changes.
My kids were at home in the country where we lived and in the city where their grandparents lived. Street smarts isn't taught, it's learned by experience and observation.
My all-time favorite was when I was living outside of Nashville. I convinced a chick who lived between Chattanooga and Knoxville (a good three hours from me) to drive all the way to my house late on a Friday Here's the kicker. Inviting a strange man you've never met over to your house to bang when you're a female living alone is risky enough, but this chick didn't live alone. She had a six year old kid who was asleep in his bed! And she allowed me, a complete stranger, to strip down to the nude and bang her, one room over from her sleeping child. That was a HUGE ego boost for me knowing my sex appeal was enough to make her throw that much caution into the wind!
You can keep telling yourself that, but I'm sure you weren't the first guy she threw the caution to the wind with.
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When online dating, safety must be first, otherwise, what's the point? If a guy asks to meet at his house, it might be innocent (yeah, put you in a position of extreme vulnerability), or not.
Can you really respect a guy who would be inconsiderate enough to put you in that position and not be sensitive to your own concerns?
Glad you asked the question. I encourage you to be careful with this one - whether you meet at all. Don't let your hormones get in the way.. (or his!)
The internet has officially streamlined dating and sex. I'm kinda angry I wasn't around for it, but I also feel oddly lucky.
What are you talking about? You're still breathing, aren't you? Then you're still around for it. Jump in and give it a try. Never too old to rock and roll. Viva Viagra!
When online dating, safety must be first, otherwise, what's the point? If a guy asks to meet at his house, it might be innocent (yeah, put you in a position of extreme vulnerability), or not.
Can you really respect a guy who would be inconsiderate enough to put you in that position and not be sensitive to your own concerns?
Glad you asked the question. I encourage you to be careful with this one - whether you meet at all. Don't let your hormones get in the way.. (or his!)
I agree. I would not go on a date with a guy who suggested we meet at his place. I'd assume he wasn't very considerate or that he just wanted me to come over for a hook up.
I have gotten requests from guys to meet me. Why is it most of them prefer to meet at their home instead of a public place first? Is it a good idea or not? I understand most people are on a tight budget and understand guys not wanting women looking to meet a guy just for a free dinner.
I know when I ask a female to meet me at my home for the first time, it's because
"I don't think she is girlfriend material and more suitable for adult fun activities indoors"
Now not saying why this guy is doing it but I want to say that 95% of guys who do request it want to have some ADULT FUN. I mean why else would they ask a woman to come over
BTW: The 1st date I have in a hour is going to be in public at a cafe and she wasn't the type I would invite to my place first-lol
Just b/c there's risk involved in everyday life, doesn't mean oh hell, lets throw all caution to the wind and meet at a strange man's house -- inside his house. What in the world make someone think that's a perfectly alright and safe thing to do, I just don't get, sigh. Men that advocate this type of thing are up to no good, IMO. May be fine with some, wouldn't be fine with me and that's all I'm saying...But you're jumping from one extreme to another and that's not what I meant. But OK. Whatever.
If you talk to a guy long enough you will know that going to his house the 1st time is fine
If you talk to a guy long enough you will know that going to his house the 1st time is fine
No that's quite alright. I'll pass. But thanks anyways.
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