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I will agree with you there. That was my second mistake. The first mistake was going out with this guy in the first place.
I don't understand, how was going out with the guy in the first place a mistake? Most internet dates don't result in chemistry, that's just the way it goes. You weren't attracted to him, and he wasn't attracted to you. Where's the harm?
First internet date last night at a restaurant. Conversation was mostly boring and I felt no chemistry, but I wouldn't have said it was a terrible date...that is until the bill came...I know that he's the one who lost money because I had exact change, but I'm just disturbed that he was "generous" enough to overtip the waiter, but had no problem with me paying my half of such a cheap bill.
Obviously, there won't be a second date.
Maybe the guy was: a) rich, b) simply trying to impress you with his zealous generosity, or c) grateful for the service rendered to the two of you by the waiter. I can't believe you're twisted (yes, you're twisted because you referenced your Internet date as "the dumbest guy in America) over twelve bucks. Obviously, there are greater issues with this scenario, and I think it begins with you. You felt "no chemistry," and was mostly "bored" with your "first" date with "the dumbest guy in America," yet you "wouldn't ...say it was a terrible date."
I can't believe you're twisted (yes, you're twisted because you referenced your Internet date as "the dumbest guy in America) over twelve bucks.
Ok fine, calling him "the dumbest guy in America" might've been a bit harsh. More like the dumbest guy I've been out with in a while. I mean, geez, I went out with someone who admitted to me that he was a total pothead and that he was going home to smoke some after our date, but at least he was a fun and interesting date and told me to put my purse down when the check came...and it was way more than $21!
You planned to pay your 1/2 & you did..... What he did with his 1/2 & the balance of His money is NOT your business! Maybe what you felt was Bad service he thought the waitress deserved a tip! Get over it already!
First internet date last night at a restaurant. Conversation was mostly boring and I felt no chemistry, but I wouldn't have said it was a terrible date...that is until the bill came. The bill is around $21, and the guy puts in $20 (he says he doesn't have change). I give him $12 (two $5 bills and two $1 dollar bills) for my portion of the bill. Instead of giving me some of my money back or taking the extra amount for himself, he puts ALL of it in the check holder for the server and we leave. He doesn't even wait to get change back from the server. So essentially, we pay $32 on a bill that was around $21 and service was definitely not that great.
I know that he's the one who lost money because I had exact change, but I'm just disturbed that he was "generous" enough to overtip the waiter, but had no problem with me paying my half of such a cheap bill.
Obviously, there won't be a second date.
From what I've read, it doesn't seem like the guy had evil intent. 'Paying the bill' is one of the most confusing issues when it comes to dating in America. Where I'm from, it was automatically assumed that the man pay, ALWAYS. In the U.S, depending on who you're dating and his upbringing, it would depend. I am going to be honest, it was very annoying when I came to the U.S. and was introduced to the concept of dutch but I have adapted.
The guy at least contributed something. What if he had suddenly "lost" his wallet? How would you feel then?
Don't expend too much energy on this. You probably don't know this, but you are sounding really, really really upset and it's just $12? The guy was probably unaware of what he was doing.
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You planned to pay your 1/2 & you did..... What he did with his 1/2 & the balance of His money is NOT your business! Maybe what you felt was Bad service he thought the waitress deserved a tip! Get over it already!
1. No server deserves an $11 tip for bringing out two $8 salads.
2. If he was only attempting to cover his half with the $20 and not get any change back from it, he's dumb.
3. If he was willingly contributing $20 for the entire bill, but couldn't (or wouldn't) come up with the extra $4-$5 for the tip and then couldn't even let me know that all he needed me to pay was the tip and not my entire half, he's dumb.
4. I was dumb for handing him $12 when he clearly didn't know what to do with it!
Anyway, since there was no chemistry and you don't want to see the guy again, the point is moot. Let it go and move on!
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After having a family of servers, maybe this is what he was thinking:
Geez it's Friday/Saturday night and all we ordered was a measly $20 worth of food at a decent restaurant. The waitress clearly wasn't happy to have one of her tables wasted on this date for over an hour. I will give her the extra $7 in order to help compensate her for her lost income. Maybe my date will see my generosity for what it is.
Besides that...it's $7. Why should you be entitled to it if you paid your fair share? I always throw in an extra dollar or two just to be kind. I'm not stupid. I do it because I want to.
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