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Originally Posted by Johnny Ace
No, it had nothing to do with my hesitance for sex. I was ready before she was.
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It's too bad it ended the way it did, but you won't want to waste your time with that girl anyway. Nextime just move a little quicker and YOU call the shots. Put the burden on her to speak up and bring up "the talk" and say she's not ready for sex. Just make a move, go at it unless she stops you. But it's a non-issue now, move on to the next one.
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Online dating is my only realistic option to meet women.
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Not it is not. That's the big lie. Online dating is a HUGE joke for men. I've done it over 4 years and I'll never go back. It is a crap shoot and it does not work. No good woman will be online because she won't need to be. If there's a woman online, something is wrong with her, and it can take a while to find out.
Join some groups, try some new hobbies. Learn to
banter. Make conversation with random people by just throwing out comments while near them like "wow it's cold out today" or "I'm ready for the weekend" and see if you get a bite. Or ask friendly, non-intrusive questions that could start a conversation like "hey, is that book good, I was thinking about picking that one up" or "do you like sushi? where's a good place nearby?" You're not going for broke and asking them out, and if they turn the cheek and walk away you then it's not like you put yourself out there that much, it will speak more about their lack of courtesy which you don't want to be involved with anyway. (See how that works in your favor double-time?)
I met a woman through guitar classes that I'm taking as well. We only hung out once and there probably isn't any romantic interest, but it's a girl I got to meet and who knows I may meet some of her friends someday.
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I doubt that. Two weeks ago she was in my arms in bed. The next time we were together she nervously told me how she'd been debating whether or not she was ready for actual sex and decided she couldn't handle the emotional side of it, but we made out nevertheless. She didn't want to feel sleazy getting sexual with a new guy so soon. Then she decided she wasn't ready to date at all.
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It's all insignificant, bro. It doesn't matter what she says, it matters what she does. The only question that matters is
Is she with me right now? No, she's not, you have your answer. You did nothing wrong, it's her problem, just learn from it and try to be more perceptive and less revealing. Think of your next encounter with women in this situation as a poker game. You want all her chips and if you stay in the hand long enough you'll get to see her cards, but if you show yours too early you could walk away with nothing.