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Why? If some of you find it to be off the mark, then explain.
It is laughable, because you equate hard work for equivalent pay and thats not always the case. My boss pulls in $ 200-300K/year but she works from home most days, and she comes in at 10 am and is out the door by 4 pm every day. We have admin assistants at my office that come in at 8 am and don't leave until 7 pm working to get things done yet their salary is barely $55-65K/year- whereas most management comes in, reads emails, responds to them at home or after dinner, and delegate half the time..
So NO, I completely disagree with you on this one. I earn more than my husband but I also get to go home for lunch and bill for work while teleconfering calls while driving. My husband doesn't have that luxury - he has to be at his desk/station at X time for X amount of hours or he gets docked on pay. He puts in a lot more work when he is there than I do by virtue of his particular job and work environment.
I can't believe what I'm reading here... Subsidize?! Why do people bother getting married at all if everything is his and hers and proprotionately spent?! God help if they have children, too. Here, son - 1/3 of the wire (or whatever it is) for your braces is from Mommy and 2/3 from Daddy. Ridiculous!
It really is ridiculous. What comes to mind for me also is retirement funds. He wants her to pay a higher percentage because she earns more, but what if she's bringing more in because he's putting more into a 401k? That's just not a marriage.
It really is ridiculous. What comes to mind for me also is retirement funds. He wants her to pay a higher percentage because she earns more, but what if she's bringing more in because he's putting more into a 401k? That's just not a marriage.
This is the problem with your money, my money. If it was 1 joint account it would be our money.
1. Private sector jobs tend to require more work from employees (based on what I've read). 2. You have a side job. 3. Management will be more work. There's nothing equal about any of that as far as work output goes from where I sit.
Actually, in my particular field, its less work because I do more delegating (and I say this as someone who was recently promoted where half my old tasks are now being done by lower level admins which frees up a good 3-4 hours of my day to just monitor progress of certain activities on a screen).
We had the same problem. I came up with a plan that I thought was an equatable division of money. for instance if 25% of your income should go for housing . Then each person contributes 25% of their income into the housing budget. The same for transportation 20%, food 20%, That way no one is spending anymore of their budget than they would normally if they were alone.
My SO didn't go for it . It was more fun if I just paid for everything and when my money ran out they would chip in.
This is the problem with your money, my money. If it was 1 joint account it would be our money.
Thats why I am proposing a joint account for us. This way we can have household expenses like food/utilities come from that account - and everything else we spend comes from our own personal accts. FWIW, retirement isnt counted I contribute a ton to my 401K so even though I make MORE income a year, my monthly net take-home pay is EQUAL to that of my husband because he only contributes 5% toward retirement while I contribute double that from my paycheck toward my 401K.
We had the same problem. I came up with a plan that I thought was an equatable division of money. for instance if 25% of your income should go for housing . Then each person contributes 25% of their income into the housing budget. The same for transportation 20%, food 20%, That way no one is spending anymore of their budget than would normally if they were alone.
My SO didn't go for it . It was more fun if I just paid for everything and when my money ran out they would chip in.
That sounds fair to me too! Why didnt your SO buy it? are you still with him/her now or did the relationship end because of that one disagreement?
It is laughable, because you equate hard work for equivalent pay and thats not always the case. My boss pulls in $ 200-300K/year but she works from home most days, and she comes in at 10 am and is out the door by 4 pm every day. We have admin assistants at my office that come in at 8 am and don't leave until 7 pm working to get things done yet their salary is barely $55-65K/year- whereas most management comes in, reads emails, responds to them at home or after dinner, and delegate half the time..
That's not how it goes at my job. My big boss, who probably earns similar to yours, is always on the clock. Emails come in from him at mid-night on Saturday nights to 5-6am during the week. The work itself, the work we do, is simply not in the same universe as what our admins are doing. His PhD in whatever science was no doubt difficult to obtain compared to the run of the mill LA degree our admins have (if they are educated). There is just no comparison in any way.
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So NO, I completely disagree with you on this one. I earn more than my husband but I also get to go home for lunch and bill for work while teleconfering calls while driving. My husband doesn't have that luxury - he has to be at his desk/station at X time for X amount of hours or he gets docked on pay. He puts in a lot more work when he is there than I do by virtue of his particular job and work environment.
What about your side job? And what industry are you two in?
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Why do people bother getting married at all if everything is his and hers and proprotionately spent?! God help if they have children, too. Here, son - 1/3 of the wire (or whatever it is) for your braces is from Mommy and 2/3 from Daddy. Ridiculous!
