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I recently had someone that I knew for sometime ask to be friends with benefits. I've never been in that kind of situation and I was kind of surprised because I saw this guy as something more. When he realized that I had feelings for him he said "It's best if we go our separate ways". I asked why and he said "Stick around for what so you can catch more feelings than what you already have..I'll pass". I felt so cheap and ugly and hurt. I read a post from friend on FB stating "Friends with benefits = in reality is telling you to your face that you're good enough to f... ...but not good enough to invest feelings in." Is this true?? Apparently I'm not even good enough to be friends with either.
You're good enough for both but he only wants you for one of those attributes. If that not what you want (only), then it's best you let him walk because you're not going to get what you want from him. There is someone else out there who will give you what you want so seek him out.
He sounds like a jerk. You deserve better. FWB usually benefits the guy and is an excuse for him to have sex with you until he finds someone else he cares about and dumps you. I would de-friend him on Facebook if he said that to my face. Don't be a doormat.
You're good enough for both but he only wants you for one of those attributes. If that not what you want (only), then it's best you let him walk because you're not going to get what you want from him. There is someone else out there who will give you what you want so seek him out.
He sounds like a jerk. You deserve better. FWB usually benefits the guy and is an excuse for him to have sex with you until he finds someone else he cares about and dumps you. I would de-friend him on Facebook if he said that to my face. Don't be a doormat.
He wasn't the person that posted that on FB it was another friend of mine but he definitely is not a FB friend any longer and I have changed my cell # also. It's so hurtful and surprising because I've never given him a reason for that. When I first met him there seemed to be a genuine interest and he wanted to get involved. Fast forward a year passes and now he throws the FWB at me. Just feeling bummed and unworthy.
Well, what I'd take it as is a compliment. You gotta be pretty hot for him to want that, right?? Don't take it as anything less than that. He thinks you're hot and you don't want to deal with that. Flip him the bird and find someone better.
I recently had someone that I knew for sometime ask to be friends with benefits.
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Originally Posted by jazzyj19
When I first met him there seemed to be a genuine interest and he wanted to get involved. Fast forward a year passes and now he throws the FWB at me. Just feeling bummed and unworthy.
Things don't add up here... What was happening during this whole year? Could you elaborate, please?
Things don't add up here... What was happening during this whole year? Could you elaborate, please?
We were cool but I noticed a change.. he has alot of personal issues..baby mama drama... he says he has enough drama with his baby mamas and he doesn't need anymore..Sidenote--I really need to find people to date that don't have "baby Mamas" cause their always seems to be an issue. He never asked me how I felt about it just that if i was down with it and if not to go our separate ways. I know its an ******* move but it just seems out of left field. I always thought that we kind of liked each other and I figured he knew all this time that I felt for him but for him to say this ...just ...It made me feel as if he was disgusted at the fact that I even had feelings for him. I already have confidence issues and this just made it worse.
Well, what I'd take it as is a compliment. You gotta be pretty hot for him to want that, right?? Don't take it as anything less than that. He thinks you're hot and you don't want to deal with that. Flip him the bird and find someone better.
I didn't take that as a compliment at all. To just dismiss my feelings and say "for what so you can catch more feelings. I'll Pass". It's a slap in the face..for no apparent reason.
Well, what I'd take it as is a compliment. You gotta be pretty hot for him to want that, right?? Don't take it as anything less than that. He thinks you're hot and you don't want to deal with that. Flip him the bird and find someone better.
Unfortunately, I've seen the opposite... a lot of the time the guy doesn't think she's hot enough to date seriously so he figures he can get a few rolls in the hay while she's around. It's like the guy who takes his 'girl' out to only out of the way, hole in the wall places so nobody he knows sees them together.
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