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Himain,
So if men don’t approach you it is because you are too beautiful for them and intimidating, right? Even if a guy tells you that you are not attractive and/or interesting, you just won’t accept it and think he is lying to you, right?
Sometimes I wonder if it is difficult for women to see that not everybody in the world will find them pretty and/or smart and therefore not approach them the whole night.
Don't go lumping us all into that narcissistic rat's nest that she exhibits. Most of us are a little more self aware.
Don't go lumping us all into that narcissistic rat's nest that she exhibits. Most of us are a little more self aware.
Cool. So let me ask you. If you go to a party, bar, club, etc. and no man whatsoever even glances at you would you accept it that you simply don't seem attractive and interesting to the guys around you without thinking that they are intimidated, gay, have a girlfriend, had a bad day, etc.?
Cool. So let me ask you. If you go to a party, bar, club, etc. and no man whatsoever even glances at you would you accept it that you simply don't seem attractive and interesting to the guys around you without thinking that they are intimidated, gay, have a girlfriend, had a bad day, etc.?
I know my strengths, weaknesses and flaws and the vibes I'm giving out. I know I'm not going to be everyone's cup of tea and they aren't going to be for me either. I believe true confidence exists when you don't have to 'sell' yourself to other people or find excuses with everyone else than yourself. True confidence comes with the saying - less said, best said or it is best to leave others to determine what your good qualities are without you having to tell them.
I know my strengths, weaknesses and flaws and the vibes I'm giving out. I know I'm not going to be everyone's cup of tea and they aren't going to be for me either. I believe true confidence exists when you don't have to 'sell' yourself to other people or find excuses with everyone else than yourself. True confidence comes with the saying - less said, best said or it is best to leave others to determine what your good qualities are without you having to tell them.
That’s cool Thursday007, well said. You are probably the only one so far or one of the very few women at least in this thread who admits that you won’t be hot and interesting to every guy who crosses your path. When you are confident about yourself and what makes you the woman that you are I don’t think you will have to rely on showing skin, cleavage, legs, or some fake tough attitude to attract men.
That’s cool Thursday007, well said. You are probably the only one so far or one of the very few women at least in this thread who admits that you won’t be hot and interesting to every guy who crosses your path. When you are confident about yourself and what makes you the woman that you are I don’t think you will have to rely on showing skin, cleavage, legs, or some fake tough attitude to attract men.
I'm no prude, but I know those tactics only work to attract a certain type of man or for a limited use type of man. Usually, the wrong type. I've always preferred quality over quantity myself. A woman can be attractive and sexy without all that - usually even more so. Those tactics you describe usually backfire to a significant degree if it's overboard. I also have enough confidence I can see other women somewhere with someone and saying (without any sexual undertones), "Now she's very pretty." Or something to that effect, but it's never for the reasons you listed above. Simply the way a woman carries herself, smiles or walks can be the most telling about their confidence and attractiveness. I would have to say that description applies to men as well.
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Himain,
So if men don’t approach you it is because you are too beautiful for them and intimidating, right? Even if a guy tells you that you are not attractive and/or interesting, you just won’t accept it and think he is lying to you, right?
Sometimes I wonder if it is difficult for women to see that not everybody in the world will find them pretty and/or smart and therefore not approach them the whole night.
Some of them, the narcissistic ones.
For me it's mostly because I tend to 'like' women a little too easily, but also because I fear I feel inadequate because I'm not her 'type' (I was going to say 'league' but I don't really like that term).
For me it's mostly because I tend to 'like' women a little too easily, but also because I fear I feel inadequate because I'm not her 'type' (I was going to say 'league' but I don't really like that term).
Aw, don't ever feel inadequate. Just because you aren't someone's type doesn't mean that you are inadequate or that there is anything wrong with you. Sometimes I have gotten hit on by men that obviously thought they were God's gift to women - and I knew that as soon as I opened my mouth and let the goofy out - they would be running for the hills!
About this thread - all I can say is that if all men are too intimidated by pretty women to hit on them - I must be ugly! I get hit on by bums sometimes! Apparently - I'm not intimidating to anybody!
But like I said before - I think the intimidating factor and the pretty factor are two separate things that can go hand in hand but don't necessarily.
I have never heard a guy say that they are god's gift to women, it is a myth. Do you have any proof?
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Aw, don't ever feel inadequate. Just because you aren't someone's type doesn't mean that you are inadequate or that there is anything wrong with you. Sometimes I have gotten hit on by men that obviously thought they were God's gift to women - and I knew that as soon as I opened my mouth and let the goofy out - they would be running for the hills!
About this thread - all I can say is that if all men are too intimidated by pretty women to hit on them - I must be ugly! I get hit on by bums sometimes! Apparently - I'm not intimidating to anybody!
But like I said before - I think the intimidating factor and the pretty factor are two separate things that can go hand in hand but don't necessarily.
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Aw, don't ever feel inadequate. Just because you aren't someone's type doesn't mean that you are inadequate or that there is anything wrong with you. Sometimes I have gotten hit on by men that obviously thought they were God's gift to women - and I knew that as soon as I opened my mouth and let the goofy out - they would be running for the hills!
About this thread - all I can say is that if all men are too intimidated by pretty women to hit on them - I must be ugly! I get hit on by bums sometimes! Apparently - I'm not intimidating to anybody!
But like I said before - I think the intimidating factor and the pretty factor are two separate things that can go hand in hand but don't necessarily.
That's true. There are some women who give off an air of unapproachability - even if they aren't God's gift to men. This may be body language, or even the way they dress. Then there are women who are absolutely gorgeous but in an understated way, and they don't 'put on airs' as they used to say.
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. So let me ask you. If you go to a party, bar, club, etc. and no man whatsoever even glances at you would you accept it that you simply don't seem attractive and interesting to the guys around you without thinking that they are intimidated, gay, have a girlfriend, had a bad day, etc.?
I get hit on by bums sometimes! Apparently - I'm not intimidating to anybody! 
