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In all honesty, and without meaning this in a mean or snotty way, just out of pure curiosity...how is it that you don't KNOW when somebody's screwing around on you? I've been lied to, myself (not cheated on, but lied to),and it it was always easy to spot.
OMG Creme. My ex was a dog too, but I can't believe someone would go this far. Beth
yeah, believe it....pretty sick huh? I thought there was something really wrong with me...I'd wake up and the dog would be standing at the top of the steps crying, my husband would be gone and no matter how hard I tried I could not get up....or wake fully up....I must have looked pretty bad, cuz there was an airforce recruiting officer working in my company's building, and he would stop over for office supplies now and then....we got to be friends in a two year period...one day, he said, "I'm taking you to lunch today...I'm worried about you and you need to tal"...so I went...when I told him my story, he said, "there is nothing wrong with you....I've known guys who talk about doing this...they buy stuff off the shelves and put it in their wives drinks....pretty darn sick in my book....
Your brother has a right to know. It doesn't matter if it's you, her or the dog that tells him. If it was my brother, I wouldn't even hesitate to tell him. Just tell him what you saw and show him your evidence. Then let him deal with it.
Not taken in a snotty way, but... She doesn't work. Drop the child off @ the bus and day is hers until 3. He pays for everything! he takes the child to all sporting events(she finds it work to go) and spends all weekend with the child
Sounds like she found herself a sugar daddy in your brother as well as a livin babysitter on the weekends. I would venture to say the marriage is over for her, so break the news to your brother as soon as possible no need to invest any more time in a person like she appears to be.
In all honesty, and without meaning this in a mean or snotty way, just out of pure curiosity...how is it that you don't KNOW when somebody's screwing around on you? I've been lied to, myself (not cheated on, but lied to),and it it was always easy to spot.
It's called complete trust....it was going on for years....since even before we were married....I just took things for granted....very naive....he came home every night...
Finally, when I thought I was loosing my mind, I hired a privet dectective...he told me, that my husband frequented a bar...and had made friends of the locals there???? I had no idea? But you see, he was very active in community functions and volunteered for them...that was his ticket out of the house...Never did I even suspect....
Believe me, I don't take your question as an insult, as when I look back now, all I can do is hang my head in shame, to think I had that much trust in someone, and he took advantage of it and threw it right out the window...didn't mean anything to him.....
I'm sorry, but this woman's brother I believe needs to know...he probably doesn't suspect either....when I look back, I really, really wish, someone would have sat me down and told me, I'd have probably cried tears of joy...just to hear someone else say it. But no body did that..who knew, and I was very angry about that....but maybe this woman's brother will not feel the same way I do about it, and it could cause severe problems between them...especially if in the end, he forgives his wife, cuz they have children, goes back to her....he will probably never be allowed to go near her again????
You see, when you tell them, and this happened to me, with my girlfriend, you put them in a position of trying to decide which one of you might be lying...in this case, his wife or the sister? I've had the very same thing happen to me with my son....she isn't cheating on my son, but she was very cruel to me and then told my son, it was all my fault...he wanted to believe his wife...we all grow deaf ears and don't want to hear the truth...
Well, I was always the type of person, who felt telling the truth was more important than loosing a friend....now, she is re-married and glad I told her...but at the time...she wasn't.
As far as my son is concerned....I have cut them both off completely...I can't take way she is so capable of draining everything from your soul that is positive.
Not taken in a snotty way, but... She doesn't work. Drop the child off @ the bus and day is hers until 3. He pays for everything! he takes the child to all sporting events(she finds it work to go) and spends all weekend with the child
Hmmm ... more details. To be honest, I think your brother already knows. Perhaps he just doesn't want to admit it. Sounds like he has become the doormat. Tell him.
Beth......Do you take medication? Go back and re read all of your posts. You change like the wind.
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