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I would not show up at any one's house unless the host or hostess invited me.
I take it this is not the norm for you to be at your Ex SIL home?? If not, I would not just show up. Maybe she invited the kids, and didn't want to exclude you but since she didn't mention it to you in person, I wouldn't show up. Course, you could break the ice and invite her for coffee this week, then you'd know for sure if she doesn't sound interested.
The FB should have been your hint...you are not invited...if you show up they will be nice to you for your daughters sake...but you will feel uncomfortable!Trust me don't go!
Had this ex-sister-in-law ever directly invited you?
If she was fine with inviting the rest of the family and you mentioned that you guys are on good terms, I don't see why you would be singled out. If you believe in your friendship and genuinely want to go, you could always confirm with her the next time you talk by asking something along the lines of "Btw, my daughter and nephew have mentioned that you have a party on ___? Sounds like fine. What is that about?" That would give her plenty of chance to give you a formal invitation over the phone. If she doesn't take the chance, you know what to do.
I wouldn't worry too much about the FB thing. A portion of FB users do not log on every day like the rest of us. Unless of course, if you know for certain that she is active on facebook and it has been a while that she has ignored your invite.
Your family is told by your adult daughter (27) that you are invited to someone's home.
Other family members are supposedly going as well and have indicated so.
You see the homeowner and talk but there is NO mention of seeing your family in the next few weeks. You give ample room to have that said.
Your niece (also 27) insists you are invited - that her mom just doesn't do formal invites.
The person's home is your ex-sister-in-law but all have been on good terms but she has just moved to a new home closer to all.
PS - Have asked for a FB friendship - no response.
What would you do? (I do not want to show up on her doorstep).
(She has 4 children with my brother - 3 of them now have their own homes and one lives in an apartment while going to college).
If the person in question was a stranger or someone not well known, I'd wait for a 'formal' invite (verbal would be sufficient). But if the person is known to you, which it appears to be the case here, I'd ask something like, "Hey, is it cool if I come over?"
[maybe the ex-SIL thinks/knows you are already coming over, it's cool with her, and doesn't see the need to formally invite you]
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Unless of course, if you know for certain that she is active on facebook and it has been a while that she has ignored your invite.
