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Here's the thing, I like to make out heavily without having it lead to sex. Call it juvenile, but that's just me. Anyways, I met someone who I would very much like to make out with so I'm thinking of maybe inviting him over to my place. I do plan to talk to this guy beforehand about how I like to make out without sex because it's not like I want to be a tease. Then I think I might be a bit naive about things because all the guys I've made out with in the past (it's only been 6 guys) were really cool and respectful of my boundaries (even when we went very far and did everything except actual sex), but I know every guy might not be that way.
So to be honest, I don't really know this particular guy that well at all. He seems nice and I have a good feeling about him in my gut, but I could be wrong. I usually don't invite people over until 3-5 dates, but it's only going to be our second date... It's kind of an urgent situation because he'll be leaving town very soon, so we don't really have much time left together and I just wouldn't want him to leave without us making out first.
So it basically becomes an issue of putting myself in a vulnerable position by being alone in my home with a man who I don't know very well and getting him sexually worked up in the process when I know that it's unlikely that I'm going to want to have actual sex with him. (Now that I've typed this all out, I see that it all sounds really bad. LOL)
So I guess I'm just wondering if I'm like delusional about life and crazy to think that it's ok to do what I do and not expect to eventually get raped or have the guy get really upset? Is making out without having sex really too much to ask?
Here's the thing, I like to make out heavily without having it lead to sex. Call it juvenile, but that's just me. Anyways, I met someone who I would very much like to make out with so I'm thinking of maybe inviting him over to my place. I do plan to talk to this guy beforehand about how I like to make out without sex because it's not like I want to be a tease. Then I think I might be a bit naive about things because all the guys I've made out with in the past (it's only been 6 guys) were really cool and respectful of my boundaries (even when we went very far and did everything except actual sex), but I know every guy might not be that way.
So to be honest, I don't really know this particular guy that well at all. He seems nice and I have a good feeling about him in my gut, but I could be wrong. I usually don't invite people over until 3-5 dates, but it's only going to be our second date... It's kind of an urgent situation because he'll be leaving town very soon, so we don't really have much time left together and I just wouldn't want him to leave without us making out first.
So it basically becomes an issue of putting myself in a vulnerable position by being alone in my home with a man who I don't know very well and getting him sexually worked up in the process when I know that it's unlikely that I'm going to want to have actual sex with him. (Now that I've typed this all out, I see that it all sounds really bad. LOL)
So I guess I'm just wondering if I'm like delusional about life and crazy to think that it's ok to do what I do and not expect to eventually get raped or have the guy get really upset? Is making out without having sex really too much to ask?
I would understand a girls boundries and respect it, buuuuuuuuut I'd definitely be expecting sex. I'd definitely go to take off her shirt 100% of the time .
I wouldn't be mad , especially if it was early on, cant expect everyone to put out right away.
Last edited by intelfan11315; 06-03-2012 at 06:10 PM..
Here's the thing, I like to make out heavily without having it lead to sex. Call it juvenile, but that's just me. Anyways, I met someone who I would very much like to make out with so I'm thinking of maybe inviting him over to my place. I do plan to talk to this guy beforehand about how I like to make out without sex because it's not like I want to be a tease. Then I think I might be a bit naive about things because all the guys I've made out with in the past (it's only been 6 guys) were really cool and respectful of my boundaries (even when we went very far and did everything except actual sex), but I know every guy might not be that way.
So to be honest, I don't really know this particular guy that well at all. He seems nice and I have a good feeling about him in my gut, but I could be wrong. I usually don't invite people over until 3-5 dates, but it's only going to be our second date... It's kind of an urgent situation because he'll be leaving town very soon, so we don't really have much time left together and I just wouldn't want him to leave without us making out first.
So it basically becomes an issue of putting myself in a vulnerable position by being alone in my home with a man who I don't know very well and getting him sexually worked up in the process when I know that it's unlikely that I'm going to want to have actual sex with him. (Now that I've typed this all out, I see that it all sounds really bad. LOL)
So I guess I'm just wondering if I'm like delusional about life and crazy to think that it's ok to do what I do and not expect to eventually get raped or have the guy get really upset? Is making out without having sex really too much to ask?
In this particular case, I suggest sparing the guy the disappointment.
Here's the thing, I like to make out heavily without having it lead to sex. Call it juvenile, but that's just me. Anyways, I met someone who I would very much like to make out with so I'm thinking of maybe inviting him over to my place. I do plan to talk to this guy beforehand about how I like to make out without sex because it's not like I want to be a tease. Then I think I might be a bit naive about things because all the guys I've made out with in the past (it's only been 6 guys) were really cool and respectful of my boundaries (even when we went very far and did everything except actual sex), but I know every guy might not be that way.
So to be honest, I don't really know this particular guy that well at all. He seems nice and I have a good feeling about him in my gut, but I could be wrong. I usually don't invite people over until 3-5 dates, but it's only going to be our second date... It's kind of an urgent situation because he'll be leaving town very soon, so we don't really have much time left together and I just wouldn't want him to leave without us making out first.
So it basically becomes an issue of putting myself in a vulnerable position by being alone in my home with a man who I don't know very well and getting him sexually worked up in the process when I know that it's unlikely that I'm going to want to have actual sex with him. (Now that I've typed this all out, I see that it all sounds really bad. LOL)
So I guess I'm just wondering if I'm like delusional about life and crazy to think that it's ok to do what I do and not expect to eventually get raped or have the guy get really upset? Is making out without having sex really too much to ask?
It does sound bad. If the guy is ok with it then do as you please. Personally, if you invite me over and you told that we're going to have a heavy make-out session, I would still believe that we'd be having sex as soon as my hands went down your pants. I'd see you as a tease that likes to play hard to get until you get all w*t down there and then it would be on. But I say that bc who tells a guy that they're going to have a heavy make out session for the second date but no sex? Answer: A woman that wants to get 'fired up' down there without being seen as a wh*re. Heavy make out is the gateway drug to a heavy sex session. At least in my eyes it is.
It does sound bad. If the guy is ok with it then do as you please. Personally, if you invite me over and you told that we're going to have a heavy make-out session, I would still believe that we'd be having sex as soon as my hands went down your pants.
Yes, see that's the thing. I know that some guys are going to think that I'm just saying that so that I don't seem too easy, but I'm actually really serious about not wanting to have sex. Maybe I probably shouldn't let it go to the point of hands down my pants, but I sometimes do.
Yes, see that's the thing. I know that some guys are going to think that I'm just saying that so that I don't seem too easy, but I'm actually really serious about not wanting to have sex. Maybe I probably shouldn't let it go to the point of hands down my pants, but I sometimes do.
Yes, see that's the thing. I know that some guys are going to think that I'm just saying that so that I don't seem too easy, but I'm actually really serious about not wanting to have sex. Maybe I probably shouldn't let it go to the point of hands down my pants, but I sometimes do.
Are you kidding me?? When hands go down the pants a guy is expecting oral or straight up sex. And why wouldn't he expect that. Most women who go that level are either going to do oral or will have sex with the guy. That's been my experience.
I'm an adult, but I've never had sexual intercourse. I have yet to want to go that far with anyone. I'd like to meet someone who I desire in that way, but it hasn't happened yet.
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