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I gave up being a nice guy quite recently. It took me a while, but I have realised that not only will women and people in general not respect you for it, but you'll get used and trampled all over in today's society. I decided to give it up, let it go. I'm not anyone's white knight, nor wil I placate anyone's ego with stupid compliments or chivalry. I'm tired of giving and not getting it back in return. Women generally go for (good looking) jerks. I can at least get the jerk part right.
I wonder what will happen to the OP when he hits 30, and suddenly all he wants is a smart, kind, sensible woman, with no baggage or crazy, to love him and want to be a family with him?
Hint, they will all be happily married to guys who figured out very early how to find a good woman and treat her as an equal partner, not as a strange, frightening species.
This OP is another one of those who will end up alone at 65 in a one-bedroom condo in Boca with a hairpiece, a bank account ravaged by alimony and a Viagra prescription he rarely gets to use.
Women who are in to nice guys are rare yes some guys are lucky to find them but most nice guys stay single until they are 30 this is a fact of life, for proof have a look at all the "why do women don't like nice guys" blogs
I will not gamble with my youth
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Originally Posted by zentropa
I am not sure why the OP is so anxious to have other men jump on the bad boy train with him. There are only a limited number of "hot" bimbos with low self-esteem in the club, and surely he would not want to increase his competition.
Oh, and I just had to quote this from the OP, because it is just a classic of the genre.
I gave up being a nice guy quite recently. It took me a while, but I have realised that not only will women and people in general not respect you for it, but you'll get used and trampled all over in today's society. I decided to give it up, let it go. I'm not anyone's white knight, nor wil I placate anyone's ego with stupid compliments or chivalry. I'm tired of giving and not getting it back in return. Women generally go for (good looking) jerks. I can at least get the jerk part right.
Then you are halfway there.
Ask yourself this, where do you see yourself in 2 years? forever alone or chasing skirts?
Join a gym or buy a dumbbell set, bench press ect and work out for 30-60min every 2-3 days , ride your bike most days and in 2 years you will be loving life
Disaster dujour! Dude, don't act like this! Quality women will want a nice guy, just not a doormat. Now if you're looking for hoochies, by all means, carry on.
Alright let's make one thing clear here, I do not want this to be a bawwwww
I want this thread to provide hope for all those 16-30 year old men who have to deal with a generation of ..ahem women who only go for Bad Boys that these guys can become the bad boys that these young girls desire. (please note; there are some women who like nice guys but these women are rare)
My story
I was once the nice guy who showed respect for women and for 20+ years I went months at a time without the even slightest attention from a girl. I spent my time on online fourms bitching about how women always go for the "jerks" and just wishing that I would one day find that girl who would love to be with a nice guy.
One day I snapped and "woke up" I relized that I may become a 30 year old single man with no life experience with the women and that I must change so I started a work out regime I became quite fit with abs, pecs the works but I still could not land a girl until I decided to act like a bad boy. I started approching girls in nightclubs being cocky and a little bit vulgar and the women loved it, I started dirty dancing and making out with women and just talking and treating then like objects, women will SMS me the following day after sex and I would ingnore then all week only to call them on a weekend when I was drunk and horny and they were over in a flash. I have had girls cheat on their boyfriends with me and I just stoped caring.
The way I see it is that most of the women in my age group (20) just love the cocky bad boy even women who say they don't sti wind up cheating on their boyfriends with us. I even did an experiment. To prove this what I will explain below;
The experiment;
I created a fake online dating profile of some mirror shot muscular man (did not use my pic due to privacy)
I made his profile to make him sound like an stuck up jerk
He was employed at KFC
I only added women who said something along the lines of "I just want a decent guy who will treat me nice, I DO NOT do one night stands" in their bios
Over 80% of women accepted his request
I then chated to these women, I was very vulgar and asked then if they wanted to come over for drinks
Over 60% of the women were keen the rest were offended or they said "maybe another night"
I then created a fake profile of an average guy who was not fat but not super tonned
I made his bio make him sound like a decent nice guy who held a decent job
I then added the same girls I added using the fake jerk profile
Only one girl accepted and was not that chatty in the online chat
Anyway the reason of this thread is to prove to all nice guys losers that there is hope, you just need to adapt and become a bad boy. Do not become a 30 year old man full of reguets ACT NOW! use this forum to discuss amougst yourselves your plan to become the bad boy that women desire ( just leave that PUA crap out of this thread)
This has been a public service annoucment
(p.s on phone bored at work, phone likes to spell check and I can't scroll in this text box so intoner auto correct errors)
FIRST: How old are YOU?! You must be very young to believe that women in their 20's to 30's want to find a "bad boy". Sure, some do, but majority don't. Once women get older they start to realize that the fun bad boy has a future in jail or working at KFC. Most women around my age (24) are looking for guys with a stable career and fun outgoing personality.
SECOND: I claim your little "experiment" with online dating is flawed and most likely fake. Its flawed because you are testing it via an online dating website where people HAVE to be superficial. If you had a picture of a really good looking guy, then just an average one, OF COURSE the good looking one would get more replies. I think its most likely fake because you were very vague on what a jerk vs. nice guy was. Plus, I dont think you would spend that amount of time generating such a worthless experiment.
LAST: I highly doubt you went from Nice Guy to Jerk for women. Congratulations on not being you, you would have been better off lying your way into getting women to sleep with you. Maybe you could just pretend your rich? Good luck on being a jerk the rest of your life.
And I leave you with a quote that pretty much should sum up your love life. "You mad bro?"
I gave up being a nice guy quite recently. It took me a while, but I have realised that not only will women and people in general not respect you for it, but you'll get used and trampled all over in today's society.
Maybe you should try to be a "good guy" instead. Seems like being a "nice guy" (whatever that means) is pretty lame.
How many guys actually want to date "nice girls"? There are very few people who put "niceness" above physical attraction, intelligence, sense of humor, etc.
It is entirely possible be a good person and not let someone walk all over you.
A so-called nice guy who dislikes women and can't understand why they don't like him. Somebody call Dreamworks, I think we have an original story on our hands. How unique, WOW!
How many guys actually want to date "nice girls"? There are very few people who put "niceness" above physical attraction, intelligence, sense of humor, etc.
It is entirely possible be a good person and not let someone walk all over you.
The whole positive point of being a good person, But not allowing others to take advantage of you. Agreed.
As far as "nice girls" go. There are nice girls that are great souls, And that will be fun, and "bad" with a nice guy when together. Nice also does not mean boring I would like to add. A sexy, exiting relationship where 2 people are in love with each other IS possible and they don't have to fit the bad characteristics either. The the challenge is maintaining that relationship and growing. that's what I think. Though it is easier said then done-For me included.
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