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By the way, OP, what did you do to get sex up until 6 years ago? Were you in a relationship?
Back then I did not have sex regularly at all, you might as well have called it consecutive periods of drought. The last person I slept with was a medical tech who I bailed out a couple of times both at work when she made errors and financially when she needed to pay rent. She still wouldn't give me the time of day until we ran into each other at a party and were both incredibly drunk. I couldn't even get her number the next day when we both sobered up.
"Dude, who told you life was supposed to be fair?...The truth is, women get away with some things easier than men..."
So that means you do admit you, as a woman, have an easier time getting sex whenever wherever you want it, no effort needed, correct? And maybe there might be a thing or two that men have it easier.
Should be for their own satisfaction, I agree. But also, generally speaking, if men want to raise their possibility of being with a woman that they find attractive, they SHOULD have a career and job. You, as a woman, not necessarily. Sure, you do it for your own satisfaction but to be with a man you find attractive and interesting? naaaah.
You're wrong there. Have you read all the comments all over this forum by men who insist that women be employed in order to be considered serious material for an LTR or marriage? If they're not employed, they're considered "golddiggers". It's best for anyone to be employed if they hope to get into a relationship, that's true for both men and women. That wasn't the point of my post. Few people choose their career path with an eye toward its appeal to the opposite sex. They choose a career for its own rewards.
Not starting this to complain or start gender debates, but just want to post a serious question. Is it incredibly uncommon for a man in his 30s to not have sex for this long, while actively (attempted to get dates, meet people in social settings, etc) trying? Is it weird enough to assume multiple defects on my part or is there anyone else in a similar situation? I don't usually discuss this with people I know (partly out of embarrassment), so I was not sure if maybe it was more common than I thought.
You're what they call involuntary celibate, "INCEL" is the shortened name and your situation is very common in this country even among successful men like George Sodini who was unable to find a woman and subsequently shot up a gym and then killed himself.
Your best bet SD is to get a passport if you don't have one and spend time in other countries where the women are more friendly and the culture views sex no different from eating and drinking. I kid you not, I know of guys who are completely ignored here in the States, but when they go overseas the foreign women treat them like rockstars/Gods.
Women have even agreed that men are more easier to please than women. If you are attractive to a man and nice to be with, you have it made. A man? Not as easy. He has to take the initiative, pay for your expenses, etc. There are a couple of threads out there this week that show women preferring men to pay, to take initiative, etc. Not saying this is right or wrong but just the way it seems to go most of the time. Check out your own thread about women preferring men to pay. A man without a job, career/degree, etc. won’t be able to do so.
At least you agree it is not difficult for you as a woman to get sex in a snap. Then again, what woman will admit she doesn't get sex easily?
THIS again! "Women can get sex in a snap." "All women have to do is show up." This is utter nonsense. And the idea that women won't admit they don't get sex easily? You're thinking like a guy! That's the problem with so many of these threads; guys project their own mode of thinking onto women. Women think completely differently! There's nothing to "admit", as if there's something to be ashamed about. Life is what it is. Nobody said pairing up was easy. Get a reality check, please!
I am in shape and groom myself regularly (short haircut, shave, all the essentials basically); I'm neither overweight nor losing my hair- at least as far as I can tell. For all those who don't know, I am 5'3" and Asian. I've made two consultations with life coaches this week, although admittedly I am a little nervous telling them about this and having them say you're a lost cause.
Dude you just need to get out there then.
Join a meetup group for something that interests you and go do it. You may meet some women there.
Do you have an asian centered church you attend? Plenty of women looking for men there....
There are some women out there with fetishes for Asian men.....
You're what they call involuntary celibate, "INCEL" is the shortened name and your situation is very common in this country even among successful men like George Sodini who was unable to find a woman and subsequently shot up a gym and then killed himself.
Your best bet SD is to get a passport if you don't have one and spend time in other countries where the women are more friendly and the culture views sex no different from eating and drinking. I kid you not, I know of guys who are completely ignored here in the States, but when they go overseas the foreign women treat them like rockstars/Gods.
If by overseas, you're talking third world countries...yeah, I guess men could expect extraordinary treatment. These women are looking for a savior...can't blame them.
If a guy has gone that long without sex after trying, it may be in his best interest to contact an escort or head to the massage parlor. And no, going 6 years without sex in your 30s is not normal.
Yea, but now he's putting himself at risk for being busted by the cops or being robbed (even killed) by a thug who uses his GF as bait.
Women have even agreed that men are more easier to please then men.
Agreed. Men are "more easier" to please than men.
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Originally Posted by onihC
There are a couple of threads out there this week that show women preferring men to pay, to take initiative, etc. Not saying this is right or wrong but just the way it seems to go most of the time. Check out your own thread about women preferring men to pay. A man without a job, career/degree, etc. won’t be able to do so.
Funny, the threads I saw said women prefer to pay their own way, including my thread.
A man without a job, unless he's like one of our unemployed members here, working daily to send out resumes and working full-time at a job-search, won't have much chance with women, anyway, it has nothing to do with his inability to pay for dates, which, need I remind you, don't have to involve money at all. Although I think the current extreme economic situation might result in some slack being cut to men.
Women without a job don't seem to be attractive to the guys here, either. Whining about how easy women have it just isn't going to go well with most women. Remember, most women are "average", and so don't have money, gifts, dinners, job offers raining down on them, contrary to popular belief.
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. Then again, what woman will admit she doesn't get sex easily?
