Girlfriend had a few words to say to me. (dating, man, love)
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I took my girlfriend out on a trip to South Padre Island Saturday morning and we just arrived back about 3 hours ago. She enjoyed the trip and did plenty of things. She got to have some "alone time" with me (I really couldn't say no to it this time around). Overall, a positive experience. However on the way back she posed an interesting claim. She has called me a workaholic and my schedule is too hectic. Like me, she doesn't say much but when she does she likes to make it clear and get her point across.
She said that "You are trying to kill yourself and you put very little value into other people. Life is more than just getting rich. Wealth isn't always about the number in your bank account but the interactions and effects you have on the lives of other people. You volunteer so much of yourself to humanitarian efforts, so I know you understand me." That was about my hefty scheduling. The next paragraph the second part when it comes to the relationship.
"Why do you isolate us from the rest of your life? I try to include you in so much of my life even though you seem to take very little part in it which I'm totally ok with. At least do the same for me and give me the opportunity to not take a big part of it if I wish. As great of a guy as you are. You are extremely frustrating. Don't think this is the end of the road for us but I'm just saying this because it's something I feel you need to work on." It made me think about it.
I will post my schedule up all 24 hours on weekdays. Weekends are a wildcard because who knows what I have planned.
Weekday:
5:00 AM to 5:20 AM - Wake up and freshen up (wash face, brush teeth, floss, the whole nine)
5:20 AM to 5:40 AM - Morning shower
5:40 AM to 6:00 AM - Dress and eat an orange (that's my breakfast everyday)
6:00 AM to 7:00 AM - Drive to work (this does not apply if I'm staying home and working which is often but not as often as me going there)
7:00 AM to 3:00 PM - Work
3:00 PM to 4:00 PM - Drive to the gym
4:00 PM to 5:30 PM - Work out
5:30 PM to 6:00 PM - Evening shower
6:00 PM to 7:00 PM - Cook dinner if it isn't made and eat if it is
7:00 PM to 9:00 PM - Work around the house (not much usually except dishes cleaning and laundry)
9:00 PM to 10:00 PM- Working on work, web surfing, making computer music or anything related to the computer
10:00 PM to 12:00 AM - Work on the cars (even longer if new parts have arrived)
12:00 AM to 12:45 AM - Night shower and freshen up for bed
This is the usual schedule I feel. I don't work out everyday and I don't work out on days I practice. I also don't work on my cars (I have 4 cars and 2 are just projects but only 2 cars are at my current residence) that long everyday if at all. I may spend more time on the computer instead of working on the toys. I also adjust it according to how I feel and I'll cut away my free time and not work out in order to have more sleep. However, I went with this to kind of give you a better view of my day.
Getting just over 4 hours of sleep per night will take care of everything, either when you wrap yourself around a tree falling asleep at the wheel, or you die young of a stress-induced heart attack.
Yes because the gym is on my side of town and I drive to it straight from work. It takes about an hour to drive from my side of town to my work so it makes sense. However, if I stay at home then it's about 10 minutes.
Honestly, you're lucky she cares enough to call you on any of this. I'd have just dumped you.
Just being honest. You don't have the lifestyle of a man who is seriously interested in a relationship or dating. I wouldn't be surprised if she did leave you, or was getting something on the side. You're never around. You'd never know.
Hey, Y-J, you already told us about your schedule on another thread, and I commented then that it looks like you're a workaholic, (among other comments that fit in w/what your gf is saying). That schedule looks like the schedule of someone who's compulsively driven to stay busy. Even the way you formulated your OP looks symptomatic of someone who's driven, compulsive and perfectionistic. You're really lucky your gf is so flexible and tolerant--she's not demanding that you give up the hours daily you spend on hobbies (car, internet), she's not asking you to give up the time you spend driving to the gym when you could do a home workout and save all that drive time. So midnight to 5 a.m. you sleep? Where in the schedule is gf time?
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