Please register to participate in our discussions with 2 million other members - it's free and quick! Some forums can only be seen by registered members. After you create your account, you'll be able to customize options and access all our 15,000 new posts/day with fewer ads.
wouldnt talking about the weather or a puppy or what type of yogurt you like, be more like being a used car salesman, considering the reason for approach is something completely different and obvious to both parties? Saying that you find a woman attractive is the most honest and direct way to approach one, becasue its the truth. I do realize that some women may be uncomfortable with it, because they arent used to it or able to process it, but in real life it really does work like a charm.
My yogurt guy has become a staple in your arguments. Nice.
It worked on me, so why is it a bad thing. While I wouldn't go the weather route, I also don't want the sleezy "baby, you're so beautiful" come on.
when someone says what they want, i take with a grain of salt regardless of gender
many have no idea what they want, and others know it but say something else for various reasons
Fleetiebelle and I aren't saying what we want. We're saying what has worked with us in the past, and what doesn't work. We're talking about the practical, not the theoretical. We were saying Tri was closer on target with the weather as an opener, rather than a compliment. Though as I mentioned before, a little humor works wonders.
My yogurt guy has become a staple in your arguments. Nice.
It worked on me, so why is it a bad thing. While I wouldn't go the weather route, I also don't want the sleezy "baby, you're so beautiful" come on.
HAHA...that was YOU, with the yogurt thing. I KNEW it. Look, all im saying, is I know what works for me and other guys that try a direct approach, Baby, youre so beautiful is indeed a sleazy approach - Im not advocating it at all, i think youre visualizing somehting completely different. 99% of women on this globe, when told that you find them attractive, with confidence, a sly smile, flirtatious eye contact and in a non-threatening but friendly manner, respond in a very positive way and take it as a sincere compliment. The most attractive girls, very often use other defenses like sunglasses, listening to their ipod, texting etc etc...sometimes a combination of all, to make sure guys stop approaching them. FWIW, Ive gotten in their path they were walking, asked them to stop what they were doing, turn off their music or get off their phone, only to tell them that i find them attractive. None of them have ever been creeped out by it or took it the wrong way. In fact, ive gotten quite a few phone numbers, dates, smiles and positive feedback for these exact actions. We all do what works, and a man approaching an attractive womn in public, stranger or not, is the most natural thing in the world, and there is no reason to hide it or be ashamed of it. THose inhibited too much to understand it, should be ashamed.
Why a sly smile? That's when the creep factor begins to surface. Why not a genuine, sweet smile? You actually block their path? Creep factor, again. That's a threatening move. Women I know take evasive action when a guy blocks their path. If you say 99% of the women on the globe respond to this, why are the women here responding differently? Oh, right, I remember, we don't count. And why should Tri be ashamed, just because he chooses a different opener than you? At least he's approaching women and talking to them, which is more than a lot of guys can manage.
if taking everything people say they want at face value has worked for you then roll with it
my experience has been otherwise
Why wouldn't I? You're right, it may not always be true, but who are you to question what someone says about their preferences?
I don't mean to be rude, but this is a peeve of mine - when people think they know better than me when it comes to myself.
Quote:
Originally Posted by Ascension2012
HAHA...that was YOU, with the yogurt thing. I KNEW it. Look, all im saying, is I know what works for me and other guys that try a direct approach, Baby, youre so beautiful is indeed a sleazy approach - Im not advocating it at all, i think youre visualizing somehting completely different. 99% of women on this globe, when told that you find them attractive, with confidence, a sly smile, flirtatious eye contact and in a non-threatening but friendly manner, respond in a very positive way and take it as a sincere compliment. The most attractive girls, very often use other defenses like sunglasses, listening to their ipod, texting etc etc...sometimes a combination of all, to make sure guys stop approaching them. FWIW, Ive gotten in their path they were walking, asked them to stop what they were doing, turn off their music or get off their phone, only to tell them that i find them attractive. None of them have ever been creeped out by it or took it the wrong way. In fact, ive gotten quite a few phone numbers, dates, smiles and positive feedback for these exact actions. We all do what works, and a man approaching an attractive womn in public, stranger or not, is the most natural thing in the world, and there is no reason to hide it or be ashamed of it. THose inhibited too much to understand it, should be ashamed.
You KNEW it was me? I have no idea what you are insinuating. Yogurt guy had mission accomplished, don't knock it because you can't do it. Read the bolded above and note your contradiction.
We've had the discussion about guys stepping in front of a woman when she's walking. I still say you're asking to be maced. Good luck with that.
Why a sly smile? That's when the creep factor begins to surface. Why not a genuine, sweet smile? You actually block their path? Creep factor, again. That's a threatening move. Women I know take evasive action when a guy blocks their path. If you say 99% of the women on the globe respond to this, why are the women here responding differently? Oh, right, I remember, we don't count.
Bingo.
Please register to post and access all features of our very popular forum. It is free and quick. Over $68,000 in prizes has already been given out to active posters on our forum. Additional giveaways are planned.
Detailed information about all U.S. cities, counties, and zip codes on our site: City-data.com.
Please register to participate in our discussions with 2 million other members - it's free and quick! Some forums can only be seen by registered members. After you create your account, you'll be able to customize options and access all our 15,000 new posts/day with fewer ads.
And why should Tri be ashamed, just because he chooses a different opener than you? At least he's approaching women and talking to them, which is more than a lot of guys can manage.
