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Why a sly smile? That's when the creep factor begins to surface. Why not a genuine, sweet smile? You actually block their path? Creep factor, again. That's a threatening move. Women I know take evasive action when a guy blocks their path. If you say 99% of the women on the globe respond to this, why are the women here responding differently? Oh, right, I remember, we don't count. And why should Tri be ashamed, just because he chooses a different opener than you? At least he's approaching women and talking to them, which is more than a lot of guys can manage.
They arent, they just say they are. Huge difference, Ruth.
I dont have an opener, and i dont need one. Good for Tri to approach women. The next step he can take is learning to be more direct with them, and drop the oh thats a cute puppy routine. Life is short.
HAHA...that was YOU, with the yogurt thing. I KNEW it. Look, all im saying, is I know what works for me and other guys that try a direct approach, Baby, youre so beautiful is indeed a sleazy approach - Im not advocating it at all, i think youre visualizing somehting completely different. 99% of women on this globe, when told that you find them attractive, with confidence, a sly smile, flirtatious eye contact and in a non-threatening but friendly manner, respond in a very positive way and take it as a sincere compliment. The most attractive girls, very often use other defenses like sunglasses, listening to their ipod, texting etc etc...sometimes a combination of all, to make sure guys stop approaching them. FWIW, Ive gotten in their path they were walking, asked them to stop what they were doing, turn off their music or get off their phone, only to tell them that i find them attractive. None of them have ever been creeped out by it or took it the wrong way. In fact, ive gotten quite a few phone numbers, dates, smiles and positive feedback for these exact actions. We all do what works, and a man approaching an attractive womn in public, stranger or not, is the most natural thing in the world, and there is no reason to hide it or be ashamed of it. THose inhibited too much to understand it, should be ashamed.
Sheesh. If I did that, a woman would probably call the police.
Why wouldn't I? You're right, it may not always be true, but who are you to question what someone says about their preferences?
I don't mean to be rude, but this is a peeve of mine - when people think they know better than me when it comes to myself.
You KNEW it was me? I have no idea what you are insinuating. Yogurt guy had mission accomplished, don't knock it because you can't do it. Read the bolded above and note your contradiction.
We've had the discussion about guys stepping in front of a woman when she's walking. I still say you're asking to be maced. Good luck with that.
Sorry spinx, but what most women say they want and what they actualy want, are very often two very different things. Most of the time, they are completely opposite. Real life teaches you that, not wanting to tell someone how they think or how they feel. "oh i just wish i could meet a nice guy". right
They arent, they just say they are. Huge difference, Ruth.
I dont have an opener, and i dont need one. Good for Tri to approach women. The next step he can take is learning to be more direct with them, and drop the oh thats a cute puppy routine. Life is short.
Why should women bother to post here at all if the guys aren't going to believe them? Why have women on the forum at all, just make it an all-male forum, since you guys are convinced you know us better than we know ourselves, and you discount everything we say. And you consider yourself successful with women? How does that work, when you believe they don't know what they're talking about? Arrogance doesn't go over well with women.
Tri doesn't need to be more direct, what he does works for him. Yogurt man got a wife through his approach. What you don't want to understand, is that indirect works great for a lot of guys. Why not live and let live, instead of telling everyone you have a superior method? (Arrogance doesn't work too well with other guys, either.)
Sorry spinx, but what most women say they want and what they actualy want, are very often two very different things.
You're changing the subject again. We're talking about what works, what has worked in the past, not some theory about what we want. Do you get that? It doesn't seem to be sinking in.
I can only speak for myself, but the guys I've dated who, especially in the beginning, kept going on and on with the compliments regarding my appearance are the ones that I really didn't connect with, because I felt they were focusing too much on looks, and not enough on substance. My friends (both guys and girls) and I have come to the conclusion that the girls who overly enjoy and encourage compliments about their appearance are the ones with self-esteem issues.
I can only speak for myself, but the guys I've dated who, especially in the beginning, kept going on and on with the compliments regarding my appearance are the ones that I really didn't connect with, because I felt they were focusing too much on looks, and not enough on substance. My friends (both guys and girls) and I have come to the conclusion that the girls who overly enjoy and encourage compliments about their appearance are the ones with self-esteem issues.
Thats a good point, but we are only talking about the initial apoproach. Since the guy who approaches you, doesnt know you as a person or anything about you for that matter, he only truly knows that he finds you physicaly attractive. If that is the case, wouldnt you want him to be honest about it, without being too agressive or pushy? I think compliments should be rare, personalized and sincere. ALmost every human being appreciates this type of compliment as long as its done tastefuly and in a friendly manner.
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And why should Tri be ashamed, just because he chooses a different opener than you? At least he's approaching women and talking to them, which is more than a lot of guys can manage.
