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So if you come back from Oklahoma and he continues to be "stressed out and angry at the world," how long before he hits you, then blames you for adding to his stress??
wow! did someone say "overreacting?"
the op didn't say that he had been physical. that is a serious charge, a really serious charge. just because someone doesn't say goodbye in the morning or is grumpy sometimes, hell, if that is the criteria for someone about to start beating their significant other, we have alot of potential "burning bed" situations on our hands.
I've bee dating a guy for over two years now. We lived together after a year and recently moved to Oklahoma for his career. We don't plan to stay long but I did it because we both know we want to be together even if we aren't married yet.
He was in the military and I only bring that up because i have dated military guys before and they hvae a common theme of sight anger/indifference about them at times.
I do alot for him, I clean/do laundry/pick up groceries/cook. This is our deal as I left a 40k job to move here for a 20k job and he pays for most of our entertainment out here. The downfall is his job leaves him very stressed out, pissed off and angry at the world when he gets home during the week. So I don't feel very important or appreciated during the week even thought I shower him with love as much as possbile to help his mood.
However its just the little things that have gotten to me. Like today, I haven't left Oklahoma since I moved here 4 months ago and will be going to see my family. My bf and me have barely been apart for more than a couple days since we met. Usually when one of us leaves we have a normal goodbye session,no matter what time.
THis morning he normally gets up before me and leave 5 minutes before i get up. Well he didn't wake me up to say goodbye or leave a notes (which we do often). So when I woke up and confronted him about it via text, he states it was my fault for not waking up earlier to say goodbye if it was that important to me.
What boggles me is why isn't it important to him. yes its a little thing but it means the world when you don't always feel loved.
Am I just over reacting? Do guys even undertsand why I woudl be upset?
Young lady....Get yourself into some co-dependency counseling asap. You are seriously jeopardizing yourself waiting hand and foot on a guy that disrespects you to that degree. I think you are being taken advantage of. In this day and age to give up half your pay, to then wait on someone daily, indulging their bad moods....that doesn't even baby you back is a mistake. Believe me, if this is how he treats you do not marry him.
the op didn't say that he had been physical. that is a serious charge, a really serious charge. just because someone doesn't say goodbye in the morning or is grumpy sometimes, hell, if that is the criteria for someone about to start beating their significant other, we have alot of potential "burning bed" situations on our hands.
He hasn't been physical YET.
Yes, it's a serious charge, because the things she wrote are SIGNS of a potentially abusive partner. Anyone who's watched an after-school special would know that.
It's a proven fact that military relationships are more prone to domestic violence, and it's a fact that domestic violence in military relationships has increased.
the op didn't say that he had been physical. that is a serious charge, a really serious charge. just because someone doesn't say goodbye in the morning or is grumpy sometimes, hell, if that is the criteria for someone about to start beating their significant other, we have alot of potential "burning bed" situations on our hands.
Things can escalate unexpectedly in relationships where one partner has anger issues. He's already beginning to take it out on her in word and deed, though somewhat subtly. Given her description of everything, it looks like it wouldn't be a good idea to stick around for Acts II and III.
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