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Originally Posted by Ascension2012
Im not judging, but I sometimes woner why do people stay in relationships like this, where they are together for years, yet they dont trust each other or even admit to being a couple? Are some so severely affraid to be on their own for a little while?
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My personal theory on the matter is that it's a sexual chemistry thing. Whatever the other failings in the relationship may be and no matter how obvious it is to everyone outside the relationship that these two people are completely dysfunctional and going nowhere, the sex is great.
Really great. As in people-write-songs-about-sex-like-this great. That's a hard thing to let go of, particularly for young people without a lot of experience. For most people who go through that sort of relationship it's simply part of growing up and it teaches them to value
functional interpersonal relationships, but some people just get hooked on the sexual chemistry and keep chasing great sex (and confusing it with enduring love) in spite of major relationship flaws like dishonesty, infidelity, broken trust and "non-friendship".
Great sex makes people irrational.
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