Maintenance Payments - Is This A New Thing? (girl, divorce, friends)
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I need to point out a few things that I already said, but it's getting lost in teh mix.
~ She works - always has, so she's not lacking in skills.
~ He husband didn't cheat. She first got mad because he didn't ask her about her bad day, then it turned into "married too youing, tired of him"
~ I'm not looking for people to argue on who deserves what, I just wanted to know if anyone had heard of this before.
ETA:
~ She was never a high maintenance woman, she just decided she wants that life now, so it wasn't to be expected
It is as antiquated as many laws of divorce are, but are still used like 'Alienation of Affection," whereby a person in a marriage can sue the third party if he or she screws around with their husband or wife which subsequently leads to divorce. Rarely used, but a law still on the books.
Two things which should be mandatory before people get married.
One,they should be required to read John Gray's "Venus and Mars" series of books,then pass a written test.
Two,they must sit in the Family Court of their county for an entire session,so they know what happens "if things don't work out".
I predict there would be alot less marriages,but also far fewer divorces.
Divorce Attorneys the nation over would have to seek meaningful employment,like cleaning public restrooms.
Two things which should be mandatory before people get married.
One,they should be required to read John Gray's "Venus and Mars" series of books,then pass a written test.
Two,they must sit in the Family Court of their county for an entire session,so they know what happens "if things don't work out".
I predict there would be alot less marriages,but also far fewer divorces.
Divorce Attorneys the nation over would have to seek meaningful employment,like cleaning public restrooms.
There's a saying about - 'If divorces happened in a church like a marriage does there would be a lot less of them."
From everything I have read they are the same thing, not two seperate payments.
Alimony is money that is paid by one spouse to another during and/or after divorce, dissolution or legal separation. Spousal support and maintenance are modern terms used to describe alimony in states like California that no longer recognize alimony.
Limited-term Support and Rehabilitative Maintenance Limited-term support is in some ways similar to temporary support. It is paid for a pre-determined period of time and intended to cover a spouse or former spouse’s expenses, or to supplement his or her income while he or she completes an education, gets a job or otherwise becomes self-supporting. Limited-term support may be calculated in any number of ways, but is usually dependent upon a number of factors such as age, income, education, length of marriage, estimated time it should take for a dependent spouse to become self-supporting and disabilities
While I am rooting for her husband, and I have seen this with people before which is why I have stepped back from friendships with them, I do agree that men are just as likely to be this way. It may not be as common, but it happens.
I married someone who changed practially before the ink was dry on our marriage certificate. In addition to becoming absuvie and deep into drugs and alcohol, he would "lose jobs". He would claim he got laid off but couldn't collecet because he hadn't been there long enough (that was trueof the 2 jobs he had while were together), but then when I started pressing a little, he told me that he had supported his first wife and now it was his time to sit back and have someone support him.
I need to point out a few things that I already said, but it's getting lost in teh mix.
~ She works - always has, so she's not lacking in skills.
~ He husband didn't cheat. She first got mad because he didn't ask her about her bad day, then it turned into "married too youing, tired of him"
~ I'm not looking for people to argue on who deserves what, I just wanted to know if anyone had heard of this before.
ETA:
~ She was never a high maintenance woman, she just decided she wants that life now, so it wasn't to be expected
Ive heard of people asking for the moon. You can ask all you want, but there are indeed guidelines in the divorce game. If she works they will weigh the difference in income and income potential and assign any alimony based on that. Chances are if he makes a lot more she will be entitled to alimony or maintence to make up the difference for a particular amount of time if at all. It dosent matter who did what or why they are divorcing if it is a no fault divorce. I dont see any way in hades that she could get 2000$ in alimony unless he makes a butt load of money and has been providing such luxuries for her these 15 years or he just stupidly agrees to whatever.
My friend is getting divorced. In addition to alimony, she is asking for $2,000/month for "maintenance" - hair appointments, getting manicures and pedicures, new clothes, etc. She is furious that her ex-to-be is fighting against that.
Does that sound odd, or is it just me? Since when are "maintenance" payments, in addition to alimony, considered acceptable in a divorce?
Yea, make me pay to "maintain" my ex wife so that she can bang another dude. No wayyyyyyy... I would PO'd.
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