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With the new information, I fall on the side of him getting sex elsewhere. There is no need to conduct activities via cell phone when you are out of town on business for two weeks, so him not hiding his cell phone means nothing.
When men don't want sex, it's always one of three things (in no particular order):
1. Something is wrong with him--low testosterone, depression or another health issue; or things on his mind (maybe he's stressed about becoming a dad, worried about harming the baby, the stress of his job, etc.)
2. He is not attracted to you, for whatever reason--problems in the relationship, changes in your personality or body, changes in his feelings for you, boredom, etc.
3. He's getting it somewhere else.
You've asked him why. He has told you it's the first answer.
Therefore, it sounds like he needs to think about finding a new job. Your marriage should come first. A fat lot of good it's going to do him when he's divorced and paying child support because he'd rather work "a little too much" than be present with his family.
When my beloved wife & i were pregnant & having young'uns, we took some Lamaze classes. The classes helped us feel closer together as partners & lovers, intimately. We became more knowledgeable about the many aspects of childbirth, we weren't familiar with.Knowledge learned, & being there as coach during breathing exercises, gave me a feeling of helping more during pregnancy, my playing a more important, active role in the births of our babies. We had a lot of sex. ...I was there for the birth of our babies, doc helped a little. https://www.google.com/#hl=en&sugexp...w=1600&bih=719
p.s. I have a feeling your hubby may be worried about hurting your baby.
I'm so sorry for you. How far along are you in the pregnancy? You said this started a few months ago -- I am trying to figure out if there's a connection between the "belly" and his sudden dis-interest. To be honest, the first thing I thought of is that he was cheating, because it's so unusual for a man not to want sex, especially after being gone two weeks. But it seems there would be other signs, like the ones you mentioned, or even just distracted-ness because the affair's on his mind. Also, I forgot to ask, how long has he been working out of town on this schedule? Was there a time when he DID come home for the two weeks and have a normal sexual life with you?
My advice.....completely cut out confronting or nagging him about it.....He will get back into it when he is ready.
Might mean you have a sex break for awhile.....not that big a deal. Absence makes the heart grow founder. He will get back into it with you when he is ready. Unless he is getting it somewhere else. Of which you need to lookout for signs.
Also you could play initiator from time to time. That might work, though pick good times to do that to optimise the desired outcome.
I'm going to try and explain my situation as best as I can, I've never posted here before so bare with me please.
My husband doesn't seem interested in me sexually anymore and I'm really having trouble dealing with it. He used to have such a high sex drive, higher than most guys I'd ever been with, and over the past few months it has just dwindled down to pretty much non existent. I have confronted him about it, I've told him I don't understand why he has zero interest in sex anymore, he tells me that it's just difficult for him because he works out of town 2 weeks of the month and has to switch that mentality off when he's not with me, so when he comes back home the other 2 weeks of the month he's just so used to not thinking about sex at all that it just doesn't really cross his mind.....I do understand that a bit, but I don't think it's an excuse to just stop having sex with me.
We are still young hes 37 and I'm 26, in good shape, I'm not an unattractive woman, though these past few months his lack of interest in me has made me feel horrible about myself. I am also pregnant. I thought maybe he finds me repulsive at the moment due to my pregnant belly perhaps? I don't know, and if that is the case maybe it will go away after I give birth, but it's just really hard to deal with at the moment. I have sat him down and asked him what I could do to make him more sexual again or get his old sex drive back. I encouraged him to maybe watch more porn or masturbate more, anything to get his mind stimulated. He tells me anytime I want it that I can have it, and this is true, if I come onto him he will have sex with me, but I couldn't tell you the last time he actually initiated it. So I just sort of stopped trying because it makes me sad to feel like the only one who wants it, I'd rather just not do it at all if I'm the only one who ever initiates it.
I cry a lot about it at night when he's asleep, this situation has made me so sad because I don't know what else I can do? I mean I have talked to him, told him what my needs were and that they weren't being met. He seems to listen but still doesn't want me sexually after...So I just don't know what to do or think and I'm hoping some of you may have some good advice. He's a good man, works very hard ( a bit too much), is kind, this is really the only problem I have with him and I feel like he's not taking what I'm saying to him seriously, otherwise wouldn't he be doing more to show me he's still into me sexually? I can't have a sexless marriage, it is very important to me. And right now, this is the first time in my life I have ever felt completely unwanted by my partner, and it's a horrible feeling...What do I do?
Some men might be creeped out by pregnancy ..myself I found that a pregnant wife is very very sexy...SEX is generated from the mind more so than from the body...entice him..stir his imagination...get him thinking about it again..You used the word "confront"....Don't do that...it serves no purpose other than to further separate.
Your worth as a woman and a person is not defined by sexuality or "attractive"....all woman are attractive. Don't think of your self as un-attractive..that is a turn off - you maybe turning yourself off to a degree. My wife who I do not live with but have known for 30 years...is not the most "attractive" person..but there is a great chemistry about her...she gets overly hung up by the fact she is older and gained some weight- I just wish she would understand that I find her sexy and attractive no matter what..
Be gentle with your man...take the soft approach...don't pressure him...when you get into bed at night...be sweet...some men are like woman..they need a little tenderness also.
Also, some guys do lose interest during the whole pregnancy process. Note I said some.
You said your relationship is very good in other non-sexual ways and it sounds like he is a good provider.
Therefore not worth ending it over, even though sex is very important to you. Theres always self pleasure.
Now if this issue was still the case in in 2-4 years time. When pregnancy is possibly done and dusted, then you could thinking about moving on. In the meantime try some of the suggestions myself and others have given.
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...I was there for the birth of our babies, doc helped a little. 
